mine does and I am due in March so I don't know if I am going to breastfeed or not. I have heard that the dad is left out during breastfeeding and I don't want this to happen with my boyfriend.
2006-12-06 05:23:22 · 25 answers · asked by alyson 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
That's sad,I hope you choose to breastfeed because it is what you want and not them.Dad has many other ways to bond with baby-,bathing,singing,rocking,etc..You can always pump some milk for those middle-of-the-night feedings and let him do it so you can rest.
2006-12-06 05:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dylan aka Dilly 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to motherhood. You will be criticized left and right. On how you dress the baby to warm to cool, Whether you circumcised or not. What kind of bottles u use, what car seat you go with, will you let the baby cry it out etc.... Do what you think is best with the information gathered. I had a similar issue 2x 1st I opted not to have my son circumcised 2nd I breastfed him 26 months. Do the research like I said and decide for yourself. You WILL need some form of support try contacting La Leche League and your lactation consultant t the hospital when you deliver the baby. Your boyfriend doesn't have to be left out. There are so many things a baby needs to have done, diaper changes, burps, baths, clothes changes. That he can participate in all of those and if he really wants to feel you can get a breast pump and express some milk. Get a good pump though not a cheap one.
kellymom.com is a great website for breastfeeding moms
2006-12-07 15:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breastfeeding is totally and completely nature and clean. It is not gross and it is healthier for you and your baby. There are so many benefits to breastfeeding to you and your baby. You should contact your local WIC if you qualify or a lactation consultant for more info. The dad willnot be left out. There are plenty of other things he can do to bond wiht the baby. After you two have beed nursing for 3-4 weeks you can pump some milk out and let him bottle feed, but most dads don't feel left out when the mom breastfeeds. good luck
2006-12-06 13:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by mktk401 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister thinks its weird. But I don't think anyone in my family thinks it's gross. If they did I wouldn't care because breastfeeding was a choice I made. I'm the youngest in my family (23) and no one else breastfed. My husbands family breastfed and so it's all normal to them...not to mention it's the NATURAL thing to do. My son is 5 months now and I don't plan on stopping anytime soon.
If you have heard of jaundice...it's the billiruben level in baby..and its NOT a huge concern but most breastfed babies develop this in the first day or two..but as long as baby is pooping regularly and if the level is a little higher baby needs light therapy...it's not a big deal. My son who was a month early had a spike in his level and they put in on the lights for a day...the levels went down after that..the day after we brought him home we had a dr. visit to check the level and he was fine all he needed was "indirect sunlight" a little while a day.
As far as daddy being left out. All you have to do is get a breastpump...a cheap one works FINE...that's what I have "first step". Then once you pump the milk...which is a good idea anyway to have reserve milk frozen...daddy can use that milk to bottle feed baby the breastmilk.
In the first weeks you want to pump everyday after each feed. Now it's going to be hard work...baby eats every 2 hours! That means you are waking up to feed every 2 hours...but in the early weeks it's like you get an adreniline boost...and all you want in life is to feed your little one.
Even though baby feeds every 2 hours...what we did was pump and have oz's in the fridge (not freezer...you can use fridge milk 28 hours after its pumped and frozen milk can last months in the freezer) So that I could get some sleep daddy would tke 1-2 feedings with the breast milk in the bottle. And also in the first days I would lay next to baby on my bed and start to nurse and fall alseep...now I only did that because daddy was up watching until baby was done.
It's a wonderful experience. Not formula to buy, not many bottles to clean. Now that he's 5 months I stoped the bottle and strictly breast for about 2 months now...so NO bottles to clean what so ever! It's amazing! Also breastfed babies poopie DOESNT STINK!!!! yay!
2006-12-06 13:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by A Person I am 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My in-laws did and my family didn't necessarily think it was gross but no one was familiar with it. I was the first one in the family that did it since my grandma, but I did for more than a year with my first born. There are ways to be discrete about it when necessary by stepping into another room, or using a blanket to cover up. I just didn't waiver because it is the absolute best thing for my baby, and it's free and convenient! My husband didn't feel left out at all. He would help me get situated with pillows, etc, and when I needed something while I was feeding, he would get it. He usually sat close to us when she nursed (when he could) and I actually think he enjoyed not having to get up during the night to fix bottles! I'm also due in March with #2 and plan to nurse again. Don't let your family scare you off and just talk to your boyfriend about it. It is the best thing for both of you so good luck in whatever decision you make.
2006-12-06 13:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my family and my in-laws don't think that breastfeeding is gross. If you want the father involved he can help with bathing or changing diapers or you can buy a breast-pump so he can bottle feed your baby breast milk. Look at all the adds on TV by formula companies about how hard they try to get their formula to be as close to breast milk as possible. They do that because they know breast milk is the best thing you can give your baby. I hope you give breastfeeding a try. It has numerous benefits for you and for your baby. Good luck.
2006-12-06 13:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family finds breast feeding completly normal and healthy, my mom is actually a lactation consultant. I breast fed my son, and dont regret it at all. Don't let what your family thinks sway your decision, they should be supporting whatever decisions you make. This is your child and you want whats best for him right, breastfeeding is so much healthier for your child. And it creates a great bond between you and your child. As far as your boyfriend wanting to be able to fed the baby to, he still can. Its not good to give the baby a bottle before 1 month old because it might cause nipple confusion. But after that having your boyfriend bottle feed the baby a couple times a day is no problem. Like I said I breast fed my son, and he is just as close with my husband as he is me.
2006-12-06 14:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jen W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, breastfeeding is very good for your baby. You should not worry what they think and do what you want to do. If you do decide not to breastfeed, you could buy a pump. At least then the baby is still getting your milk and both you and your boyfriend can feed the baby.
Good Luck!
2006-12-06 13:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by r_finewood 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Breastfeeding is the best thing for your baby. I highly recommend it. Its also good for you since it helps your body to get back to its pre-pregnancy state and research is also finding that breastfeeding can help prevent you from getting certain forms of cancer. If your boyfriend feels left out have him get up in the middle of the night and change the baby and bring the baby to you to nurse. After a few nights of this I don't think he'll feel left out anymore! Also he can spend quality time doing other things with the baby and there will always be baby food (eventually) that he can feed the baby. My husband never felt left out. He's been able to bond really well with all our children. As far as what other people think, you need to get used to standing up for what you believe in now. Many well meaning people will try to give advice or tell you what to do. You need to search out the facts for yourself and then stand up for what you believe in!! Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing and a wonderful bonding experience. Get through the first six weeks and after that you will be so glad that you decided to do it. No bottles or formula to buy, carry around and worry about preparing, baby's food is always hot and ready to go. No getting up in the middle of the night to prepare a bottle just latch baby on. I could go on and on. Just research the benefits of breastfeeding, come to a decision and stick to it! Blessings to you and your baby! ps. check out la leche league's website. They have local support groups that can give you information and support. http://www.lalecheleague.org/
2006-12-06 13:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tanya C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family finds breastfeeding natural and healthy. Sometimes fathers do feel left out in the feeding process but if you are worried about that then you can get a breast pump and your boyfriend can bottle feed the baby.
2006-12-06 13:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Breastfeeding is totally healthy and natural and the baby really benefits from the nutrients in breast milk. Unfortunatley yes Daddy's do get left out. But he can sit with you and do the burping and just be there for the whole process.
2006-12-06 17:15:52 · answer #11 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋