I went on vacation about two months ago and saw one of my ex, and we began talking. Then one thing led to another, and now I want to be with him more than my husband. He has the same feelings towards me also. During my vacation I spent more time with him than my own husband. I don't want to leave my husband but I want to see more of my ex. Can someone out there help me PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEE
2006-12-06 04:51:56 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
one thing led to another
is a classic (do you believe yourself)
just consolidate the bills
2006-12-06 05:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by J.C. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop before you ruin your marriage. Most married people desire a little "fling" or exitement in their lives. But it doesn't mean you should allow your emotions to get the best of you. This is really only "lust" and you need to put yourself in check. Work on making your marriage work. Put more time and energy towards fulfilling some of your own personal goals, making you a more confident and satisfied person, so that you can be a good wife. Look at the good qualities in your husand, think about why you married him. Remember no one is perfect and marriage is not always going to be a bowl of cherries. You have your ups and your downs, but the thing is you work through these things together as man and wife. Please do not bring another man into the equation. No good will come from it. Spend more time with your husband. Be honest with each other and work at being happy together. If you can't work it out divorce each other, but do not fool around on the side, it will only make matter worst.
2006-12-06 07:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop right now. Fact is your EX is an ex for a reason and needs to stay an ex. You are married and do not want to leave your husband I think you have answered your own question. If by chance you did leave your husband for your ex I am willing to be your ex will once again become an ex again. How your husband tolerated you spending more time with your ex then you spent with him is beyond me. My husband surely wouldn't have laid down and let that happen.
2006-12-06 05:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop it please. Sometimes you have to be less selfish and think about your husband. Seeing your ex will hurt your husband and your ex's wife.
Ask yourself this: If I am falling for this guy now, why did I break with him in the first place?
If you feel you need to be with another man, then maybe your husband is not doing a good job. Do you expect more from him? Is he a good husband??
Try to better your marriage instead of breaking 2 marriages.
2006-12-06 04:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by dancingcorpse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no time in the rest of your life that you will be happy if you leave your husband.
Your husband does not deserve this treachery or contempt.
You will ruin yours and your children's lives. This guy is the same as all men...you will tire of him too. The only thing you have now is your dignity..once it is gone and everyone knows what you have done you will never be able to hold your head up again.
Your new sneak around partner will not leave his wife....even if he does he will forever want to go back to her. The honeymoon will wear off with your new romeo but what husbands has left to offer you is steady sticktoitivness He will always be there for you..not some cheating bum. You will be broke and disgraced and will not enter into the kingdom of God. Please rethink it.
2006-12-06 05:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel like you dont want to be tied down... and like maybe you were having doubts about getting married and now they're finally getting to you. well i dont know how long you've been married but i think that you're just worrying that you picked the wrong guy. do you love your husband? does he love you? there in lies your answer... if you're just looking for excitement then maybe you need to perk up your marriage. i think that you're hanging around your ex because you're afraid that you picked the wrong guy. however, you only saw your ex for that "small amount" of time... how do you know he is really that person who you hung out w/ over the vaca? you broke up w/ him/vice versa for a reason.. it'll probably happen again.
its not fair to cheat on your husband. you've got to make a choice fast before you mess things up too much.
2006-12-06 04:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step back & ask yourself what is it that your husband is doing within your marriage for you not to want to leave him, but give your time to another. Is he doing everything that a husband is suppose to do, does he respect you, does he see & treat you as an equal. Does he let you know how much he love's you how comitted he is to you & your marriage. Weight your pros & cons cause once the trust is broken their's no going back. Who's happiness is worth more to you in this situation?
2006-12-06 05:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the real situation is that your husband isn't fulfilling all your needs. You need to stop and think what is it that this ex is fulfilling that your husband isn't. Once you figure that out you need to tell your husband where he is lacking so that he can do it better. The two of you are committed to one another.
Infidelity always comes out of lack. Sad thing is most people don't even realize what they are lacking, they just notice when another fulfills something that is lacking. You owe to both your husabnd and your marriage to figure out what's wrong so that your husband can at least try to give you what you need before you go on cheating on him.
2006-12-06 05:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Almack 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's an ex for a reason. He may seem shiny and new again, but he isn't. You need to remember why you married your husband and not this guy. You owe it to both of your families to stop talking to this guy before everyone gets hurt.
2006-12-06 04:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to cheat on him. This is the man you've committed to.
Should you be in love with this other guy you should take the risk and tell your husband. Walk and try things with the other guy if you're sure that's what he wants too.
There's no point ruining a healthy marriage for the sake of causing some drama in your life but if you're in love with the other guy you should pursue that being true to your husband.
2006-12-06 04:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Johnny! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't go to your ex. It won't be good times. You might have missed each other over the years, but probably not as much to make you split up with your current husband.
2006-12-06 04:55:02 · answer #11 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋