He says that he loves me and wants his marriage and family but I have heard this so many times. He want even admit that he has cheated whenever I ask him. The last time that I know about is Thanksgiving Day 2006. My best friend saw him with this girl kissing like he didnt have a marriage. Anyway, my dilemma is that I met someone that seems to like me and I like him but I am wondering am I doing the right thing by not working on marriage just to be with someone else. I am afraid that I will let a good one get away. Am I rushing things. This guy does know that I am married and have not over step his boundary nor have I. I know that I am not in any kind of position to see someone else, but I dont want this to be my reason other than my husbands cheating on me to see someone else. Am i being fair to my husband by not giving him another chance. Like I said I really like this guy a whole lot. I feel like I am cheating too in my heart. I normally wouldnt feel this way. I did love my husband
2006-12-06 04:50:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So, now you see how it is to be married and be attracted to someone else but you are doing better than your husband you are not acting on it. Now you have to decide a few things, do you believe your cheating and lying husband this time. If you do, give him another chance and then make your decision based on that. Now if you don't believe him then kick him to the curb. It doesn't appear to me that either one was truly ready for marriage. I don't know about this other guy, he might be a good one but you have to clear up things in this present one before you can move on to another. Now the most important thing you said is that you did love your husband which is in past tense. So I think you have your answer. Where there is no love, how can it work or you be happy in it. Think about it. Clear your head before you make any decisions.
2006-12-06 05:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're afraid you're letting a good one get away? A lying, cheating husband is not someone I would ever consider a good catch...If you continue to take him back, he will continue to lie and cheat....I would dump the no good SOB and move on with my life. Getting involved so soon though, may not be the best thing to do at this point. Take time for yourself before you take the next plunge. If you do decide to stay with this creep, be prepared for more heartache in the future. He hasn't changed yet, why do you think he ever will?
2006-12-06 12:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"has cheated on me numerous times" "wants to make marriage work"... Seems to me these two quotes are polar opposite! IF he sincerely wants to make the marriage work, then why hasn't he made the effort? And, the fact that you are questioning this leads me to believe that you might benefit from some counseling for yourself. Sometimes someone removed from the situation can help you see why you have stayed and tolerated this bad treatment thus far. And, perhaps, can help you see what action you can take to bring you peace of mind. Good luck!
2006-12-06 13:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by CAkimster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's in your marriage to save? And why is he cheating? These are the things you need to ask yourself and this other guy that you like a lot leave it alone. You are just lonely and until you fix you and/or your marriage whatever the outcome may bring you are in no position to start a new relationship.
2006-12-06 13:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by HARWOODH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh oh. Listen, if it's meant to be, it's gonna happen, so why don't you put a little space between you and the other man, gather your thoughts and feelings, and then decide.? I wouldn't stay with a POS like your husband cuz it really is true, once a cheater always a cheater. Once you lose your dignity andself respect, it's gonna take a real shakedown for him to *maybe* realize what he's been doing.
Only you know your man, so take your time and think it over.
2006-12-06 12:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like your husband wants to work on the marriage. Seeing someone else will not resolve your dilemma. If you leave the marriage you should give yourself time before you become involved with anyone else.
2006-12-06 12:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will continue to cheat on you. I know it's hard, but you must break it off, and maybe give yourself a little time to get over things before you jump into another relationship. Easier said than done, I'm sure. Good luck.
2006-12-06 15:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by mutterhalls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he won't admit it unless you have proof. Pictures, emails, letters, or anything that is solid proof of an affair. If you know he is cheating (100% sure) and he keeps doing it then one way to make him stop is to do it yourself. The truth is do you really want to be with someone who cheats? You're probably just scared to leave more than desire to be with him.
2006-12-06 12:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should of left the first time he cheated. You don't owe your cheating husband any chances, he ruined things the first time he did this and he wasn't being fair to you.
2006-12-06 13:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no leave your husband he cheats on you all the time. you need to go with the other guy since he likes you and he will treat you right..if your husband cheats on you all the time what makes you think he is going to stop.. good luck
2006-12-06 12:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋