My good friend has been sleeping with his ex-girlfriend now for the past couple of weeks. He is 28 and has just left for the Military. His ex-girlfriend has 2 children, 1 son that is 7 from a previous long term relationship, another daughter who is about 8 months old whom she had with her current boyfriend (possibly her fiance'), who is unfortunately in prison till february serving time for a series of traffic violations/violation of probation (I dunno something not too serious-what I mean is he didn't commit any felonies). This woman has just found out that she is pregnant with my friends baby. What would you do if you were her? or what would be the best (morally ethical) solution to this? or My wife is friends with this woman, What kind of advice would you give her if you were my wife?
also, I think that she has every intention to stay with her current boyfriend. (who I'd like to add is really a nice guy who cares for her)
-don't mention Jerry Springer I already thought of that!
2006-12-06 04:46:08 · 8 answers · asked by Sam Adams 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
well if being morally ethical was an option she would have only opened her legs for one guy in the first place......i think you should tell her current boyfriend to leave her because she is a skank and she will always cheat on him and take advantage of his "nicesness and caringness".....tell her to grow up and realize you cant just sleep around because it ruins not only your life but the lives of the children she created by putting them into such an unstable life.....she should definately let the boyfriend in jail know that its not his kid because thats wrong to lead someone to believe that
2006-12-06 04:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see! Some options that are available:
-abortion, but if she has that many kids, I am guessing is not the abortion type
-She can go to the prison and have sex with her fiance and say that it is his
-She can come clean about the situation with her fiance after he gets out of prison. The guy has too much time to feel bad about her cheating on him. That would be a form of punishment.
Since she did cheat, I think the right thing to do would be coming clean with the guy after he leaves prison. Although it may cause her to loose the guy, she took that chance in the first place. Is it really love if you are willing to cheat? Now regarding the military guy, he needs to know as well. Maybe it will give him something to live for. He can work hard to stay alive so that he can one day see his child.
2006-12-06 05:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense to this women but she is doing this to herself. She needs to not being having these kinds of petty relationships and then get knocked up. there is a lot that she can do to not put her in this situation. she has several kids so abortion is out the picture. also she has the factor of giving the baby up to the daddy (only if he is ale to financially and emotionally). also adoption is key also to stop doing what she is doing. There is a lot of women that will do this because they are lonely but she needs to realize that she need to stop this, not for her sake but for the other kids in the family. She needs to pick and then be with that one that she thinks that she can't not live without b/c she will never be happy when just fulfilling her need of her loneliness. then here comes the baby and the guy dips out. So in conclusion she need to stop hurting herself and wait for mister right. Because when you bring a little one in this world it means a lot to the couple but if she is getting them with other then she is just not content with the one she really wants. Settle down it doesn't hurt you to know that there is one person for you and you can be with them without having others.
Nikki
2006-12-06 05:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Where to start?
First of all, she needs to realize what CAUSES pregnancy!!! Second of all, I wouldn't advise any of the men to be with her, because she apparently cannot be faithful! Third, I would not advise her to be with the guy who is in jail. Just because he hasn't committed a felony, doesn't mean he won't! (Or that he hasn't already committed a felony and just hasn't been caught!) I would advise her to focus on herself and her kids until she figures out what SHE wants out of life and THEN she can decide who she wants to be with!
2006-12-06 04:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time someone explained birth control to her.
This person doesn't sound mature enough to be raising children. She needs to look into adoption. As for her current bf, she needs to be honest or the relationship is a sham anyway.
2006-12-06 05:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is waaay past time for a "morally ethical" solution to this situation!
2006-12-06 04:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love slutty girls who cheat on boyfriends and sleep around without birth control. They are the best!
2006-12-06 04:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words:
birth control
2006-12-06 05:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by jessica_stay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋