i have an attitude problem but only with people who are authority figures what do i do?

Answer 1

You tell yourself F**K em. They think that have authority over you when in fact eveyone is "equal" whatever that word means today in this society.

Answer 2

There are few possible reasons to your reaction:

1. You enjoy freedom for too long, and would be tend to resist from those who can make orders to you. You don't like to be told what to do.

2. It's your value toward the society. you think those who has authority are usually bad, or get powers through incorrect means. This is due to your education, from the movies or information you have received.

Sometimes you can try to see things in different way, those people who can become sucessful must have a reason, it could be their smartness, social skills, patience, or other extraordinary abilities to make them become who they are today. Sometimes it could match the bad figures in the movie, but try to see how things are and accept the reality might make you feel better.

Answer 3

I've recently been told by my manager that I have a bad attitude!! It's the greatest thing that I have ever heard in my life!!

I reckon it's because of the way that some of the people in authority try to talk down to others and show off their authority. As a reaction, you kind of 'rebel' against what they are telling you or asking you to do. With people who are 'below' you (eg younger or on a lower stage of work than you who have no power over you), you don't need to rebel because the chances are that you are the one telling them what to do and giving them orders and advice. With people on the same level as yourself, again you don't need to demonstrate any attitude because you are all 'equal' (I'm not saying that everybody isn't equal regardless of circumstance, I mean equal as in age or job title, not race, sex or wealth etc!!)

Maybe it's jealousy of the people in authority or maybe you just don't like being told what to do by other people.

My advice would be to stay calm and patient with these authoritarians because it'll only give them another excuse to criticise you. Remember...the people that you meet on the way up can be the same people that you meet on the way down!! Good luck!!

Answer 4

Everything you do in the future you will have an authority figure over you. If you go to colleges you will have professors and teachers, and when you get a job you will always have a boss. Most people that mature into adults with that same problem usually end up working for themselves.

Answer 5

Maybe you just lack leadership skills. in order to be a great leader, you have to become a great follower first.

You need to curb your need to control your feelings. You only need bother controlling your behavior. Focus on not giving anyone a reason to complain about anything about you.

Keep your opinions to yourself. No one cares. You need to demonstrate that you are a worthy and valuable member of a group, and that you can be counted on to pull your own weight.

Don't worry about what others do or how others act to you. They do not owe you anything. No one does. If you get all rebellious and dramatic about things, you only shoot yourself in the foot. It makes you look unreliable and like you lack coping skills.

Understand politics. Politics is all about mutually beneficial relationships. Focus on building relationships. Make your focus all about other people, not yourself. Try to make someone's day, every day. Give compliments and ask questions. Show approval and interest for others. It makes you more popular and welcome.

You have to make the effort to overcome this. I could be wrong but I think is an anxiety thing for you. We all want approval from others, especially those with authority, but sometimes we get into this mode of "I'll get them before they can get me". We dismiss or look down on them before they have a chane to reject us.

Make an effort to remember people's names. Remember that lady that workd in the library "Mrs. K" and that doorman "Mr. B". Acknowledge them in passing. It shows respect and recognition, which is what we all want.

Hang in there, you will be all right. I am sure you will get some good answers here, and some good insight. Do with it what you will, the ball is in your court!

Take care honey!

Answer 6

My guess is that this will change when the shoe is on the other foot and you are in a position of authority, because you will understand that perspective better. In the meantime, the best advice I could give would be to be quiet and polite to people even when you don't feel like it.

Answer 7

You are probably hypersensitive in how people speak to you. People of authority get into a rut of barking out commands. It doesn't sit well with me either.
If you are smart enough to know you have a problem with authority figures, then you are smart enough to decide if it is worth accepting their commands or suffering the consequences if you do not. Pick your battles carefully.

Answer 8

I am thinking one room shack in the oasark mountains.
you could live off berries ,sparrows and crows.
twice a year make the trek into hooterville to buy rice and grains.
you should be fine then.

Answer 9

teenage rebelious....grow up authority figures are people too with feelings..

Answer 10

It's part of being a teenager, grow up!