she is living overseas with one sister and one brother, my mom has five children we can barely survive, we don't make enough money and most importantly she doesn't love the guy she doesn't even know the man family! this child is going to be my nephew or my nice!
2006-12-06 04:25:39 · 39 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Its not your place to "convince" her on what should be done with her body and her baby. At the same time you shouldn't be expected to financially support her or the baby as you obviously had no part in the child's creation... the fact that you don't know the baby's father means absolutlely nothing. Your sister knew him enough to feel the need to sleep with him ... now there is a child as a result, and she will have to make the decision that is best for her and her baby. The only time you should ever open your mouth and mention abortion is if your sister specifically comes and asks you what YOU think she should do. If she doesn't ask you ... then keep your thoughts to yourself.
2006-12-06 04:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Monica B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly advice against trying to talk her into having an abortion. It may be hard on your family but its her choice...and something she will have to live with for the rest of her life. My mom is 45 and she aborted what would have been my older brother. He would have been 24 right now...She still regrets it to this day and cries over it even though she was living in a tiny car with my dad sharing one burger with my dad a week. They were starving and had nowhere to stay yet she regrets terribly what she did. Don't you think that if your sister ended up regretting her decision that she may blame her family for talking her into it??? Let her decide on her own. And just cuz she doesn't love the guy doesn't mean anything really. I loved my ex-boyfriend and our relationship didn't last and we had two children together...its the love for the child that matters, not the love for the man who helped create the child. It didn't ask to be conceived, so please don't try and kill it...adopting the baby out if it came down to that, would be a better choice. There are millions of people who want babies and can't have them. Just don't push, OK??
2006-12-06 04:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by snowtiger30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is where there is a lot of controversy. I do not agree with abortion except under certain circumstances, such as there being serious health issues which endangers the baby and/or mom.
however, I do believe that any woman should have the right to choose, even if I don't agree with it because it's my personal oppinion.
my advice, don't try to convince her one way or the other. it is ultimately up to her to decide what's best for her and her child. just be there to love her and support her no matter what her decision is. she's probably having a really tough time right now, and that would just make it worse. stress for a pregnancy is very unhealthy for both the mother and the baby.
you sit here and say "this child is going to be my neice or nephew", well, it wouldn't be if your sister has an abortion. but right now it is, and are you really going to be okay with knowing you wanted that child to not be born? it's pretty much murdering an innocent child that didn't ask to be brought into this world, but was anyway. that's unfair. but again, don't take it as me trying to persuade you into anything, it's just one point of view.
reconsider the situation. you love and care about your sister, so don't tell her what she should do or what she needs to do, because no one knows what's best for her except herself. just let her know you're there for her either way. because if that baby is kept, it's going to need all the love in the world.
2006-12-06 04:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by kill_jenn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to convince her of anything. Its her body and her baby. Its her choice!! She may not love the man, but who's to say she doesn't love the child growing inside of her. It doesn't matter if you have met the guy or not, obviously your sister is the one who made the decision to bed him and have a child with him.
Start looking forward to the positive side of things since you only seem to see negative (I really cant even see the negative of things you posted). But your right this will be your niece or nephew. You wil be an Aunt soon. Time to start looking upon that and being happy. Be supportive of your sister, seems she may need it.
2006-12-06 04:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by Issym 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your sister's decision, not yours. You should encourage her to carry out the pregnancy as that is the responsible thing to do. If she chooses to keep the baby or not post-birth is also her decision. Just because she is not well acquainted with the father's family does not mean that this child is not a blessing. If she wishes to perhaps she can become more acquainted with those people. Either way, it is not your place to do anything but be supportive. Start acting like a sister and quit being selfish.
2006-12-06 04:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by katherinernilson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant make anyone have an abortion. its your sisters choice. there is a liveing person inside of her. She will do what she wants. Its not your body. I say leave your sister alone to make the desision she wants. no matter what the baby will always be loved and if abortion is not a choice she wanst she can also put the baby up for adoption alot of women out there cant get pregnat and want a baby good luck to your sister and dont make her do something she doesnt want to do
2006-12-06 04:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what do your family not knowing the baby's father have to do with her decision of keeping her baby. Second of all, if keeping her baby is what will make her happy, why wouldnt you support her in her time of need? Third off, maybe if u gave her another option besides abortion, she may reconsider. Why not adoption? There are alot of people looking for children. Instead of being selfish and doing what you think is best for yall, why not do whats best for her and her baby?
2006-12-06 04:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by nina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to support your sister and her decisions no matter what you think of them! If your sister is happy about having a baby there is nothing you can do to make her have an abortion; she would probably regret it and also this could hurt your relationship. Instead try and be happy for her; she needs you now more then ever, this is her baby and it is her decision to keep him/her. Try to think positive about becoming an aunt and how exciting this actually could be. Good luck
2006-12-06 04:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Beth B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be trying to convince her of anything. If she wants the baby that is her choice. You may not agree, but as her sister you should stand by her and be there to help her. You should support her with whatever she chooses to do. If she decides on her own that she wants an abortion then that's one thing but you should not pressure her to do something she doesn't want to.
2006-12-06 04:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by megkenzee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How aboutinstead of an abortion putting the innocent child up for adoption. Also, if you don't know the guy or his family maybe they are stand up kind of people. Give them a chance to prove themselves. Sometimes people surprise you. They may be great people and he may be a wonderful dad.
2006-12-06 04:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Amy R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋