i am i black women who is marrying an white wealthy man and his family dosent accept me, but they have know me as there sons best friend for over 20 years. they tell him that i'm a ****** and all i want is his money. but , before i started dating there son they and we were just friends they adored me.
2006-12-06 04:12:27 · 17 answers · asked by malshe39 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if your future husband knows that his family disapproves of you, but wants to marry you anyway, it shows that he doesn't feel the same way about you or your "motives" as they do. consider yourself lucky...you are getting married to a man who loves you for who you are, despite what his narrowminded and judgemental family thinks. all the best!
2006-12-06 04:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by marissanicole2107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To say "does it matter?" for your marrying him not his family, was my first thought. It still ranks up there #1 but I do know that a man's family has a hugh impact on your total happiness in this marriage. Just be yourself as they knew and liked you for 20 years, when they realize you are still the same person as you always have been they will except your marrige to him. It may take a while but if you truely love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, you have to take the good and the bad, it's just a shame that your starting out with the bad..look up it can only get better from now on...good luck in your marriage
2006-12-06 12:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been friends for over twenty years by now the family should accept you with open arms. If they liked you before when you were friends they should like you now. just try getting on thier good side and see whhat happens.
2006-12-06 12:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by D.ROCK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Important is that your friend/husband-to-be stands by you and that you love each other, the rest will iron out in time. Having your in-laws against you is of course not a pleasant situation, but you should not let that stand in the way of your happiness. They will have to come to terms with your fiancee's choice of partner, they have no right to interfere with that.
2006-12-06 12:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bunch of freaks to me....
No, if you two really love each other, that's worth fighting for...if he stands up for you and stands by you thru it all, who cares what they say.
But then I'm sure it's not an easy situation to be in. Strange they would turn on you all of the sudden.
2006-12-06 12:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lady,in such a situation it's only up to you two that you love each other from heart or only from appearance.If you love each other then you should go ahead and get married.According to me i think in your you two are in love and true love is always criticized, don't worry about others if you two like each other.
2006-12-06 12:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mystery Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiance are family now, so what they were doing before was tolerating you because you were no threat. Now this marriage thing comes up and it's all about money. I hope for your sake that your fiance is on your side.
2006-12-06 12:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him just for him and not his money. if his parent really see that you are in love with there son and you are not there if his money then sooner or later they will see that and accept to be it just takes time that is all i have to say sorry i couldn't help you out more.
2006-12-06 12:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jacklyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and you love him what else matters? Do you make each other happy? Do you intend to love this man for the rest of your life?
If the answers to these questions are yes, then go for it. who cares what they think. Besides, when/if you decide to have children, they will change their thoughts.
2006-12-06 12:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by jessyl135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe their are not into the point of view where you can mix races, if i was you i would marry him because if you love him it doesn't matter what people think and sooner or later they will accept you, i know i have a friend in ur situation.
2006-12-06 12:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by yngsnf70301 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋