I am seeing this guy for about a year. We are really different, he is a bit on the "rough" side, got troubles with law a few times when drunk..Shoot at people when there is no need to ...I hate this side of him but the way he presents himself to people is totally different from how he is with me. What would you do?
2006-12-06 04:07:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i meant SHOUT at people, not shoot! He is not that bad!
2006-12-06 04:14:21 · update #1
Apparently this is what you wanted, especially for a whole year. Now you are embarassed? If you knew this beforehand I fault you. I would like to know how long it took you to get to know him. I hope you don't think you can change him, you'll be wasting your time.
2006-12-06 04:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think at some stage, everyone gets embarrassed by their boyfriend/ girlfriend. In my case, my boyfriend is very vigilant about the amount of champagne/ wine I consume in one sitting! As too much will mean that he will inevitably have to deal with all the tears later!
No-one is perfect, but I think you need to consider whether you are happy to put up with his "rough" side. If he is only like that when he is with you, that's a bit worrying, and do you see this side of him often? I think you should really talk to him about it, as if he is not aware of how much you dislike it, he may make more of an effort.
Hope it all works out x
2006-12-06 12:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by hell_ova_arse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be on Yahoo answers asking this question, I'd be long gone.
There certain levels of embarassment that I could deal with, however when you are talking about somebody who shoots people, then I think I would be asking why I want to be with that person. Because a) he is going to kill someone & end up in jail for a long time or b) that someone could be me, as he has access to a gun.
I just hope you can get out of the relationship in one piece!
2006-12-06 12:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't date a guy whom I myself does not have a good impression on. If I, already don't really like him, what more to say my family? I have gone out with a group of friends before and a friend of mine brought her younger brother, who's my age, along. He's a total embarrassment to us all from the moment we all sat together and eat. He detailed loudly how much he loves his steak more raw so that he could bite into the taste of the blood etc (no kidding). After that, we went to the movie, and he was the only one that couldn't sit together with us cos the cinema was packed (thank god). He sat at the far end from us, and when there was a funny scene in the movie, he laughed so loud that everybody in the cinema was laughing at him, not the movie itself. We all looked at each other in embarassment. After the movie, I said goodbye to all my friends so that I can make a quick exit without anybody noticing that we came together.
2006-12-06 12:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you that is a difficult situation you got there because is has been already a year you are with him and in this situation he really feels that you accept him AS IS...so it all depends on how much you love him or care for him to continue the relationship, but if you are concern of his ways then you really should not take it to a deeper level...you don't want to get hurt sometimes we fall for what we want to see in a person..or for the hopes that person will change their ways (which is also possible mind you) but for now just work on not getting too attached. With all my respects maybe you deserve better, not that he is a bad person but if you feel embarrassed to be with him your best choice is to move on
:-) Good luck!
2006-12-06 12:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by karaya6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's more than simply a "bit on the rough side". He's a loose cannon! Any time you're not comfortable with someone for whatever the reason, is time to really rethink the relationship.
In the situation you mention, I would not be interested in being associated with such a person.
2006-12-06 12:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hang with a girlfriend who's been my friend for 22 years and she is a loud mouth and doens't seem to care if you hear her talking about you kind . . but she's my friend and I still hang with her even though she embarasses me . . she knows when she's embarassing me cause we've talked about it and she tried to act like a mouse but I hate it . . I'd much rather her be herself and me just get a little embarassed. . .
2006-12-06 12:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rainy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would hate to be in a relationship like that...only idiots get in trouble with the law...who needs them....if he embarrasses you that much then maybe it's time to go it alone or get a fella who's decent....he will always drag you down wit him if he's always getting into trouble.....find someone else and be happy
2006-12-06 12:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing he likes to get drunk and smoke pot once in awhile and i havent done any of those things.i think you should stay with him and i was embarassed to be with him sometimes too.good luck.i wish u the best!!:)
2006-12-06 12:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by roxygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a real catch. Best practice baking cakes and hiding a key in them and saying "He was with me all night, m'lord!"
2006-12-06 12:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋