I want to tell everyone that I am pregnant but at the same time I am scared of a miscarriage. I am not good a secrets at all. And this is a huge one. I don't know if I can wait 3 months to tell people. What should I do?
2006-12-06 04:06:40 · 20 answers · asked by Sari 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't think so. I have had 3 children. I never had a miscarriage before. ( knock on wood)
2006-12-06 04:13:42 · update #1
Tell everyone you know, everyone you meet on the streets! My wife and I were given this advice when we got pregnant too. Don't tell anyone, because WHAT IF you have a miscarriage. My wife's response was, well our families know what a miscarriage is. She's right. If you do miscarry for some reason, people would understand AND you would have a support system. That's not something you should have to go through alone. Go call your Mom, and Congrats to you, from me and mine!
P.S. my wife and I had twins 18 months ago, and she told everyone the day she found out she was pregnant. She called at 13 weeks along to let everyone know that there were two of them. Share your news, scream it to the world! Ha ha
2006-12-06 04:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Short Round 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell the people closest to you. i have had a miscarriage previously and am now 16 weeks pregnant.I told all my close friends and family at six weeks because, like u i am excited but also, if, and it is a BIG if, u do have a miscarriage, u will need the support of those close to u, so they will find out anyway. May as well tell them now.
U should also know that whilst it is understandable to be worried about miscarriage, it is actually VERY difficult to miscarry due to anything that u could do, it is usually down to a problem with the baby,a nd u have no control over that. If u think about all the women in this world who have healthy babies, it puts the risk of miscarriage into perspective a bit. Please don't stress over it too much, Im almost positive u will be absolutely fine!! Good luck
2006-12-06 04:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe I can shed some perspective. When I was pregnant for the first time, my husband and I told my in-laws ONLY when we had just found out. All of a sudden, we had everybody in the bowling alley (we're on a league with the in-laws) congratulating us. Two days later, I miscarried. Next week at bowling, people kept asking me how I was feeling and I had to explain about a hundred times over that we had lost the baby. I was totally pissed at my mother and father in law for leaking our secret because having to explain it to a million people made it that much worse.
With our second baby, we waited until we were past 8 weeks (the first significant milestone where miscarriage risk begins to drop) to tell anyone.
Hope this helped!!
2006-12-06 04:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait... I went through 4 miscarriages and each time I told someone usually my mom. The 5th pregnancy I asked my hubby to not tell anyone *especially* our moms. 3 months went and that pregnancy was a keeper a healthy huge gorgeous baby boy. Just sending an awareness, ask for non-mercury vaccines (see Autism Speaks).
2006-12-06 04:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait? Then you will have the support of your close family if a miscarriage (knock on wood) does occur. This is an exciting time, share it! Be happy!
2006-12-06 04:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We told. We had tried for 1 1/2 years. All of our close friends and family knew we had been trying. I couldn't keep it in.
I did NOT tell my employer until after the 3 month period though.
I wanted my friends and family to know what was going on even if it ended up being bad. As for work I didn't want the hassle of telling them and then explaining if I miscarried.
it's a very personal choice to tell or not tell.
Good luck and Congrats!
2006-12-06 04:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is completely up to you. i told everyone at 4 weeks! it is so hard not to share the good news. and think about if (heaven forbid) you do have a miscarriage, if you havent told anyone you will be dealing with that all by yourself. you might appreciate some support from others if that happens.
2006-12-06 04:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If yout not ready to tell anyoe just yet, then wait until you feel it is the right time. Maybe it would be better if you told people now. You shouldn't worry about miscarriges, I mean it is a big thing but you have no reason to worry. Just make sure that the baby is healthy. But everything is going to be ok. My pregnancy went just fine.
2006-12-06 10:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the people that you know will be their for you if something did happen, like your parents and your best friend. Then at 3 months just go crazy! Hope you have a safe pregnancy and delivery!
2006-12-06 04:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by daddys_girl319 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a personnal dicision. You won't jinks it if you tell people, they will just know if you have a miscarriage. Since there is no stigma to having a miscarriage why not tell.
2006-12-06 04:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋