My daughter is 13 and her on again off again b'f turns 17 today. They broke up because he dont want her talking to guys, he gets puffed up and pouts over the least lil thing, he cussed me because I posted what I thought of him to my daughter on her myspace.
Now he's came back crying and apologizing to me and wanting her to take him back. She has fallen into the trap and wants to go back w/ him.
He is all "hands on her waist, picking her up, cuddling, etc" when they are together. They go to her room get online (door open) but one day they were in bed (over top the covers) cuddling watching TV....
Should I be concerned? Should I let her "date" him. Their dates consist of church or my house....
2006-12-06 03:49:52 · 23 answers · asked by teresadick30 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He's too old for her. Though it sounds innocent enough at the moment, what's gonna happen if and when the relationship starts to get serious? What does a 17 year old (nearly an adult) see in a 13 year old? That is a four year age difference, and at his age, regardless of what their dates consist of, he only has ONE thing on his mind.
There are vast emotional and mental differences. She is still at the stage where she could be totally persuaded that he's in love with her, when really he's not.
I'm 14 and I'm no prude, I don't think she's too young to date, but there is NO way I'd be allowed to date an 18 year old. I'm allowed to date, but the guy can't be any more than two years older than me (up to 16).
Something that worries me a bit is that he didn't want her talking to other guys. That sounds a bit possessive - not a good thing. He shouldn't be stopping her from having other guys as friends, it's normal.
Don't let them date. Your daughter would be much safer, healthier and happier in a relationship with a younger guy, closer to her own age, say, 13 or 14. What if she was 15, would you let her date a 19 year old guy who's already in college when she's just started high school?
Hope this helps
Good luck :)
2006-12-06 08:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Astrid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make rules that no laying in the bed and that is the house rules, especially for guests as he is a guest in your home.
I am very against him being almost 18 with a child that just got into her teen years. To the point I would think twice about allowing it. She can be mad all she wants when it comes to a legal situation. Later on, she will understand when she is a parent of a young teen with adults going after her.
He also seems immature and will be more focused soon on some older females.
Can't stop her from dating him. She will only resent you and go behind your back.
You can advise her your concerns on his behavior and that he is not showing signs of good behavior.
I would pull him aside and discuss your house rules and expectations of dating your daughter. Especially when it comes to physical/sexual and emotional. You are the parent, he and she isn't.
2006-12-06 04:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't let my 13 year old daughter date a boy that close to being considered a MAN. I think it's risky, really risky.
Second, if you look down the road a few years, she'll be 22 and he'll be 26 and that's not weird.
This is your call Mom, do you trust them? Both of them? He sounds like the beginning of a control freak to me. She's 13, and she can't even TALK to other boys? I think, at this stage, it's a maturity issue more than anything. 13 is too young to be sure enough of yourself to be in a SERIOUS relationship.
Be careful, and talk to your daughter. Sit down on her bed and talk to her.
2006-12-06 03:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Short Round 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand fully. But it sounds like your daughter is a little young too be dating a 17 year old, let alone dating seriously.!.. I'm 13 and I've really never had a boyfriend, i don't consider going out with someone haveing a boyfriend.
I think you should tell her she needs to think about what's important in her life.. Like seriously it sounds like she's getting too serious/
Good-luck
Karina
2006-12-06 10:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 17 year old boy has no business dating a 13 year old girl. At that age boys want to get laid and will manipulate girls to get it, she is probably too innocent to realize that. The myspace thing was kinda immature of you to be honest. I think you should talk to her about the awful truth of teenage boys and encourage her to persue other interests besides dating.
2006-12-06 03:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No there is too much difference at this time of an age wait until shes like 16 and hes like 20. at 13 i would let my kid date only their age group.
2006-12-06 04:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your 13 year old daughter should not be dating a 17 year old. He needs to find a girl that is his own age and she should not be in such a mature relationship. This is a bad scene and will only get worse as they get older.
2006-12-06 03:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teens will be teens. Cuddling is fine...but then again the age difference is a bit gapped in this age. Anyways, if you believe that he will corrupt your daughter...you can always threaten him and tell him that once he turns 18, if he does anything to your daughter that she is too young to do...he can be charged with statutory rape.
2006-12-06 03:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 03:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course u have to be concerned u r giving your daughter to much freedom remember she is only 13
2006-12-06 04:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by love 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋