What would you do if cheated on?

Question

I just want to know if your significant other cheated on you and you had 100% proof and you have always been true to them. Would you stay, leave or cheat on them for revenge. What would you do?

Answer 1

It depends I think on the circumstance. I have been with my husband for 11 years, that is a lot to throw away. If our relationship was new, I would definatley leave and never look back. If it was once, and over, then I might try to work through it because usually, not always people cheat when there is a problem in a relationship. In no way am I excusing cheating, no one should ever turn outside of a relationship to fix a realtionship, but my Husband is worth a lot to me.

Answer 2

My EX husband cheated on me after almost 20 years of marriage...I took him back and really tried to work on the marriage. The thing that really was hurting what the trust. If he left in the evening I wanted to know where he was going, when he was going to be back Etc....it got to be so hard. Then when I found out that he started back up with this woman, I filed and eventually divorced him. Revenge cheating is not good...it only makes things harder and two wrongs do not make a right.

To take the flip version...I just got out of a relationship that I was the "other" woman. Yes, one would think I would not do to a woman that was done to me. I had so much guilt over this, however I could not let this man go. Eventually it had to end...reason: he is working on his marriage...HA!!
I am bitter and angry and sad....I fell in love and I am hurting. But relieved also. Thankfully she didn't find out and does not know. I am thankful because the pain you feel subsides...but you take that issue with you forever. Your trust in people is not the same and you look at men/women different.
I don't know if I answered...but this is my opinion.

Answer 3

I know not 100% but love makes you stay even when you really know, your gut is usually right. Its up to you and how regretful the person is, and how likely they may do it again. Revenge never works because then they would just have something on you to use. Leave if you think things will remain the same.

Answer 4

I have never been cheated on but have cheated on 2 different husbands. I'm sure the reasons why men and women cheat are different but I never felt truly in love with my 2 first husbands. Sure I thought I loved them but it was just a comfortable, safe, kind of love not a deep connecting love. I have since married my third husband and we have been together for 6 years now and have 3 children. I think the reason we love so deeply is that we new each other when we were children and that gives us a history to look back on. Also it is the way he loves me that makes me feel we are soul mates. He still can make me blush and I know he would never cheat on me. He acts like I'm his whole world and he is definitely mine. So in my experience if you cheat you are not in true love and should be looking for your soul mate.

Answer 5

i would find out why the person did it and if they repend of want to be with me still. Depends- some people do it in a momnet of anger or because they jsut want to get layd. There's nothing in this world you can't possibly forgive someone for even if it's a person who kills your mom or kid- God tought people to forgive we should forgive others. If she has no intention in admitting what she did and giving you an apology because she wants to work things out then you don';t belong togheter. I cheated on my bf of 4 years about 3 years ago and it really sucked. I asked for forgiveness becasuse i really loved him and only did it because i wanted out but didn't want to break up with him until i found a nother one to replace him but the person that i found was a total jerka nd only wanted to sleep with me. The 2 years after the incident ti was raelly hard- he would ask me 1 million questions about the other guy and what we did etc. but- he's over it now and hasn't brought it up again. His trust for me changed- he doens't trust me as i would like him to but i guess it just takes time. We're happy now though and i haven't done anything since then. I think you should have a talk wiht her and seh what she tells you but it's really up to you- remember- fi you decide to forgive her and keep her- you need to try to refrain from bringing it up or you will push her away fromy ou. My bf did this to me and many many times i wanted it to end because he made me feel miseralbe that i did what i did. I learned my mistake and he's begun to see that i trully regret doing what i did.

Answer 6

This has happened to me. Cheating on them is probably not the best thing to do......but.....it sure as hell will make you feel REALLY good!
You should stay, and act like everything is fine, then go cheat, then leave. I'm sorry, but I have ABSOLUTLEY NO sympathy for a cheater.
If you were faithful, then they betrayed you! Give them a taste of their own medicine!
Goodluck to you.

Answer 7

Its a real hard thing to do this cause you obviously cared for her but what you need to do is cut contact altogether, it will eat them up inside when you dont take any of their calls or return msgs. Thats a whole lot better than any revenge you could orchestrate, you dont have to do a thing an you can sit back when ur hearing ur phone blow up an laugh to urself

Answer 8

I would leave. After all the one who cheats is really hurting themselves. That's enough revenge for me.

Answer 9

The guessing game is over..he got caught you have the proof
be grateful you know now rather then later when you have invested more on this parasite...do not Analise this too much
....get your **** together and move on..p.s. just happened to me a little while ago. it hurts, yes. but i am still here and you guys out there are helping me cope...thanxxx

Answer 10

I caught her, she admitted it, we broke up then got back togehter a couple months. . I never trusted her after that, although I tried and I wanted to. and finally it was me who left her the second time , I just felt bad all the timeand I felt much better about myself after leaving her.