Have you ever had an abortion?

Question

What are the concequences, pros and cons?

Answer 1

I personally have never had one. However, I feel it is up to the woman to choose to have one or not. The concequences are obviously no baby.

Answer 2

I had an abortion (which I regret to this very day). I was 21 years old at the time. (I'm now 45 years old).

No one explained to me just how I would feel after the abortion was over. I was scared and didn't know how I would support my child (the Father was 22 years OLDER than me and told me to deal with it on my own). I was also afraid of shaming my parents (we're Catholic).

After the abortion was over, I felt, momentarily, peace because I thought that everything would be alright and I'd just go back to living my life. Well, I was wrong. Since that day, part of me died with my child. Every November 18th (the day that would have been my due date) I can't seem to get out of bed, I mope around, and I buy yet another year's birthday card to put away in my draw, writing inside of the card that "Mommy loves you and is very sorry for what she did, but hopes that you are having a wonderful birthday in Heaven along side of God".

It still, to this day, hurts me to look at a pregnant woman. The pain that I feel, I'm sure, is nothing compared to what my child felt the day of the abortion (I was 12 weeks along).

Looking back on it now, if I could, I would NOT have had the abortion.

You asked about the "pros" and "cons" of an abortion. I would have to respond with the "pros" would be that momentarily you think that the abortion is a quick answer to your "problem", - it's not. The "cons" would be that this decision will affect your life in ways that you can't even imagine. You are NEVER the same afterwards. You look at things totally differently. You cry constantly, sometimes for what seems to be no reason, but there is always a reason behind it (thinking of the child you voluntarily chose to "get rid of" - a child who did not ask to be conceived).

Another "con" (at least for me) is that I've never been able to carry a child to term. I've had three (3) miscarriages since the abortion and have been told that I will never be able to carry a child full term (most likely resulting from the abortion). I see this to be my punishment for having the abortion.

My husband is very supportive (he is not the man who got me pregnant back when I was 21 years old). My husband knows all about what happened back then. He has two (2) children from a previous marriage, who I adore and shower with love. They will call me "Mom" on ocassion, but I prefer that they don't, only because I feel that it is an insult to their own Mother (who is a wonderful woman), even though she has assured me that it is okay with her that they call me "Mom" when they are at my house.

Thank you for allowing me to respond to your question.

Have a lovely rest of the day. Bright Blessings........

Answer 3

No I have not had an abortion. There are women who have no choice though, women who truly want the baby and have tried for years to concieve only to find that both will die if she carries to term, sad really. The cons would be, for those who have a choice, the chances of getting pregnant when they want to have children are greatly reduced with every abortion they have, not to mention they are more likely to experience a miscarriage later in life. As for the pros, from my stand point, there are not any, but each woman has her own reasons for having an abortion.

Answer 4

No ! Noway!That would be MURDER!
I will be 24 in January,and I have three little girls > ages 6, 3 this Sunday on the 10th, and my youngest is 11 months old today!
When I got pregnate with my third ,I was surprised,because I really wasn't ready for a third and was kind of dreading the weight gain abain,but I NEVER had the idea of abortion!
I let my little hunny bunch join the crowd,and she is as happy as can be ,and so am I.

Answer 5

I don't think that's any of your business. I think you can figure out the pros and cons yourself. Pro: you're not pregnant if you didn't want to be. Con: you made an irreversible decision. Some women are fine with their decision, but others are bothered by it, even if they did it for good reasons.

Answer 6

yes, it would have made my current life impossible
(college, marriage, career) if i'd had a baby at 16
with no partner. my parents couldn't affort to help
and support me. there is some guilt, but i wasn't
willing to face the consequences of my actions.
i chose the best way out for me. i've had two
kids and a good life. it didn't ruin me or make me
depressed. it's not pleasant, i'm not even saying it's
"right" but it was convenient for me.

Answer 7

No I've never had an abortion...my personal opinion is that...just think...you could have the baby and give it to the many couples waiting to adopt. You're just killing potential life.

Answer 8

grow up, and write your own term paper.