Putting all jokes aside...what are you looking for in a soul mate, a "real relationship", companion?

Question

I see so many dissatisfied people with there mates...couldn't you tell some of this when you got married to them in the first place? If you are one who is looking...what are you looking for? Is a "perfect relationship" just a delusional dream that you have? I have been told many times that you are made up of your choices…then when are you going to start making better choices?

Exactly...there is no such thing as a perfect person...so why do you search for a perfect relationship when you have flaws too.

Answer 1

First of all there's no such thing as a "perfect relationship." When you enter into relationships you will learn that people have faults and flaws. You decide whether you can tolerate these flaws and faults and assist your mate on improving their faults and flaws. Love is unconditional, when you know and live this then you'll find such pleasure and satisfaction within your relationship. I look for attractiveness, meaning from the inside out, communication, honesty, a sense of humor, passion, spontaneous and spiritual.

Answer 2

There is no perfect relationship, because there are no perfect human beings. Every relationship takes work and a great deal of it. I think many people rush into marriage with a fantasy of what it will be like. They fail to discuss the importance of values, ideas such as money, children, child rearing, etc. I think more states should require that before a couple can get married they must undergo some hours of counseling and review and discuss the important factors of life. This may cut down on the divorce rate. God bless****

Answer 3

There is no perfect relationship, it is how each side accepts the other's flaws. There will always be differences of opinions and spats, but the important thing is that each side must leave room for understanding. My wife and I made an agreement that we should never let each other go to bed angry...haha what a failure. We need to sleep it off, and in the morning we are lovebirds once again. I am not dissatisfied with my wife, but sometimes we do not view things in the same medium and we can have heated discussions...this is a part of married life and it takes effort...but in the end we still love each other, even more than before. Just think about it...you fight with your brothers and sisters and your parents, you can get very angry with them, but in the end you f*7cken love them like crazy. Not sure if I ended up answering your question...just got stuck in a train of thought :)

Answer 4

I got married because I like my wife and later learned to love my wife years after we got married..

I was looking for a mate someone to share my life with so that I wouldn't be by myself all the time.

There is no such thing as the perfect relationship..they all have faults...it's how you deal with it as a Woman and as a Man.

As far as better choices...we live the choices we make good or bad, but in the end you relaize that being responsible is the foremost time to wake up smell the coffee and do what is right and moral...I have been married 24 years and that is my secret to a successful marriage and it wasn't easy...it took her and I both to know what we want out of life and we are living the American Dream Now!!!

Answer 5

Understanding the concept "soul mate". Yahooooo... things really are made in heaven!


Yes, every single individual living on Mother Earth has a partner in hiding... a soul mate that would practically match hundred percent with one! This has been a saying by people falling in love now and always. But this is also the truth. God made the destiny of mankind like that.

Suppose I am a boy born at number 43.045230345 (on the scale of hundred) amongst the billions of people living on Mother Earth. Then in all eventualities there would be many girls born at number 43. Whether I get to love and marry the girl of my choice is purely dependent upon my destiny which is a controversial subject (one can always take control of ones destiny if we truly desire so)!

Now, how do I find all girls at number 43...? This is where we falter... the numbering system of God being hidden from mankind... it becomes difficult to find the soul mate matching our choice and results in divorces, the divorce rate being abnormally high.

In the present materialistic trend one weighs the other from his finances, the bank balance, looks and alike. In the domain of God if we really want to search our soul mate... it may be hidden in the ugly frog for God may have cast a spell on it and unable to recognize one we marry the wrong girl! This is the irony of fate of most people the world over.

Those who can hear the sweet small voice coming from their heart... the voice of our soul (atman in Hinduism) such truthful people sometimes are able to recognize their soul mate. And it is then we learn that a Mira Bai has been born. Mira Bai was a faithful follower and lover of Lord Krishna even though Lord Krishna was married and had a wife.

The love of Mira Bai for Lord Krishna was unparalleled. It was much above the physical inhibitions expressed nowadays. For Mira Bai... sex had no role to play in the love she had for Lord Krishna. This is what pure love is all about! More on soulmate here- http://www.godrealized.org/truce_with_my_inner_self.html

Answer 6

My idea of a perfect relationship is the one i am in right now. Its been 4 years and were extremely happy together. Our relationship is fun, i cant tell him all my secrets, he gives me really good advice i give him really good advice, we can talk about EVERYTHING without being embarrassed, he completes my sentences, we tell each other we love each other every single day and hour. He's back in chicago while im here in college in Bloomington but we talk everyday and by keeping conversation open and trusting each other thats how its working. He's the perfect man i really believe we were made for each other. We only argued once and that was what made our relationship soooo much stronger because by arguing we realized our own faults and it should be avoided next time and were that much in love. Our relationship is real cuz i dont always have to dress to impress him even tho i do to keep him on his toes at times, i can be in my pajamas around him i can belch in front of him (even tho i dont cuz im a lady : ) ) and he dont have to dress to impress me, we love each other unconditionally. The best thing about our relationship is that he's not just a boyfriend to me, he's also my best friend, my soul mate and the love of my life and i will never find real love like this again. If you or anyone else is having relationship problems with a loved one, tell them not to trip about the small things because nothing worth having comes easy. and that we only let things bother us if we let it.

Answer 7

Funny you should ask this - I was thinking about this this morning.

It's when the puzzle pieces fit together. You and your partner complete a picture. Yes, there are some rough edges sometimes, but when the puzzle is complete, it's beautiful. If you really think about wedding vows, those are all parts of the puzzle. Granted most people don't think about the poorer, sickness or the worst - they just look for the richer, health and better. But all of those are a package. And you have to be able to handle that whole package and not just the good parts. There may be times when you get the bad parts, but the good take over.

Answer 8

for me; i do not expect to have a perfect relationship because if it was perfect then it would not be interesting - the more time you spend with a person or communicate with then, the more you learn who they are and what they are about - i take relationships very seriously and the one i am in now i trust it will last the test of time to the extent of marriage in the long run we can be together forever - i feel i have made a really good choice with the person i am with now - i used to think relationships were a lot of stress and that pain was a part of happiness but its not - love is really about submitting and accepting a person for who they are and what they are - i want to always be love by my man not for who he thinks i am but who he know i can be, truly love me for me - giving that person my heart and not taking it back!

Answer 9

Sometimes I think that it is human nature to keep looking for the perfect person, searching for something they think they are missing. I often feel that people are unhappy with themselves, so they try to find what they are missing in themselves in someone else. We often hope that the person we married will fill the void and make them feel complete. So I don't think it is the perfect person or soul mate we are after, but someone who makes you feel as though the world revolves around you and that no one else in the world matters.

Once we are happy with ourselves, than we will be happy with our mates.

Answer 10

I look for conciousness, do I always have to ask them to help me out.. becuase if we have kids im going to go crazy if your always playing Computer games or console games while the baby is crying and I have to scream "Where are you! I need your help!! geez!"
I look for a guy who can love you and only you, put him in bad spots to check it out.. by getting your best gf to start flirting and see if he responds or calls it off! becuase I don't want a guy who will just take anyone in and use whatever offers he gets and also cheats!
I look for romance someone who doesnt go really crazy, just when I get home from a hard day of work or back from a buiness trip to make me dinner and set everything out!

Stuff like that!