How do I get my husband to help around the house more often?

Answer 1

Use what motivates him.
How do husbands try and motivate their wives for more sex?
Romance - date night, flowers, gifts, weekends away

So figure out what motivates him and use it.

Answer 2

I just came right out and told my husband that I needed for him to help out more. Basically just be honest about how you feel. But you do have to remember they are men! For example my husband is never consistent about helping. I mean like one day he might load the dishwasher and then a couple days later he might do a los of laundry. It's like when he thinks about it he does it. When he does do something he also likes to brag to me that he did it. Looking for a pat on the back. I tell him thank you so much, but inside I am thinking, what do you want a gold star? I do this crap every day! But I just have to be thankful that he atleast tries! So, you may not get all the help you need, but even if he's making an effort then that's something.

Answer 3

hi Mrs.Cruz.....i'm assuming that you have already talked to him about this and he hasn't changed one bit. i HAD the same problem with mine. it didn't matter how much i griped , asked nicely...over and over and over again.....he NEVER changed. 15 years and he's like a little kid. he throws his clothes on the floor , leaves his shoes all over the place." for me to trip over and break my neck" i tried going on strike and stopped doing anything around the house for about 4-5 days. he didn't care. i just ended up having to work my butt off to clean it up. if you have only been married a short while and he's still in his early 20's you just might have hope. they are trainable if ya get them when they're young...LOL...so, just keep on asking him to help. fighting with him won't work. it's not worth it. cry , mope around , sigh , beg , plead and if that doesn't work....do what i did....i rented him an apt. and i rented myself an apt. right next door. my apt. is spotless his apt. IS NOT. it's hard to answer a question like this if ya don't know the person. but if you have been asking him for a long time and nothing has changed....you're gonna just have to make up your mind , accept it or do what ya gotta do. on his behalf though, if he works and you don't you shouldn't be complaining. he has his job and if you don't work...well , i feel keeping the house up and taking care of everything ,cooking , cleaning , laundry , kids , errands. Lord knows that's a 24 hour everyday job. but like i said if he's working i just don't think it's right for him to have to come home and work some more. yet again ... he could and should pick up after himself. it's hard to say because i don't know your situation. i hope this helps. good luck sweetie....you're gonna need it.

Answer 4

Tell him that you need him to help out more. Your not a maid tell him how you feel. Remember communication is the key to making a marriage work. Its his house too you cant be the only doing chores and managing the kids around the house.

Answer 5

Impossible. Men by nuture are selfish and have no idea that you even need help in the first place. But heaven forbid don't ask to help or you will hear that not only does he not care that you need help but it sparks a fight and it would take you hours to get done what you could of had done in the first place. good luck

Answer 6

Good luck! Both me and my wife work and we have two kids so we split almost all of the household chores (I refuse to fold laudry though, but I wash dishes). Most of my friends don't help their wives because their wives let them get away with it.

Speak to him about helping out and if he refuses then stop cooking for him and stop doing his laundry.

Answer 7

First, mow the lawns, wash the cars, fix everything around the house, be the major bread winner; then he will cook and clean for you.

Answer 8

Talk to him. Especially if you work outside the home, he should help. You don't live alone after all. Explain all that, don't get mad, just talk.

Answer 9

Give sex as a reward. I would do almost anything if I knew when I was done that my wife would be ready and waiting for me!

Answer 10

i need help on that too............ its so hard doing it by yourself!!!! they dont even think about dusting or cleaning the toilet or washing windows or dishes or clothes or wipeing counter tops... ya know....the only thing i can think of is to keep on them OR even quit cleaning til they see how dirty it has gotten and they will notice everything you do.....