I work with a young lady that , in my opinion, is in a awkward relationship. She's dating someone that lives over 100 miles away. They share a newborn child together. But, there is no mention of an engagement, living together, or anything. We've been friends for about three years now. She has once tried to hook me up w/ one of her friends..... that's when I told her how I felt about her. (this was before current b/f) Although awkward at first.... we remained friends. But, my feelings for her has never lessened. Just last week we were talking about christmas shopping.... "You better get something for me." she said jokingly. Now, I'm not an idiot....I did get her something. But.... what is she thinking?!!! What is my move?!! What can I do to sway her my way?!!
2006-12-06 02:23:44 · 9 answers · asked by johnbehrhart 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please just keep being her friend, if it is meant to be, she will do it on her time. You said she has a newborn with this guy, and she may be feeling overwhelmed, and all alone right now, and she will need you, BUT, be careful, you may end up hurt. THis is the holidays, and she is a new mommy, and problably feeling things she never felt before. She may sway more towards you right now, then move away later. My advice is to wait til after all of the holidays are over and then start moving more towards her. The feelings will be more real to her, not just a fix. If you have waited this long.....a couple more months will not matter. Please be careful....you sound like a sincere person, and those are the ones that get hurt the easiest. My advice is....start planning a surprise dinner for her....a night out on the town...in mid January, when things settle down. Then woo her, and see if she takes the bait!!! You will have a longer future this way!! Good luck!! I will be crossing my fingers. I hope you come back on here in January and tell us all that it worked!!
2006-12-06 02:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by PROUD wife of a soldier in Iraq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear... this is a tough one. You seem to be a very sweet man that truly cares about this girl; but you have to understand that she is in a relationship as awkward as it may be, she would be inclined to "make things work" with the father of the newborn child. If the arragements works for them they you have no right to get involved, even if you really care for her and that the man is an idiot for not marrying her, but you don;t know that for sure, perhaps, it's in the works.
You are right when you say that you are not going to be taken for a fool. You may give her something MODEST for her or the child, but don't go overboard, becase her boyfriend or her may get offended.
She already knows how you feel because you have already told her, but this is just bad timing. She didn;t make a move and she has given you no indication that she wants a relationship with you.
Remain friends and wait for your turn patiently, may the father of the child back of or she gets tired of the non-commitment long distance relationship.
Good luck
2006-12-06 02:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that you care for her, but if it was going to happen it would have already. You need to except and find someone that will return the feeling for you.
2006-12-06 02:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is cute. That is how I became renosgirl. He was my friend for 12 yrs. (smile) You need to sit her down and tell her how you feel. like me it didnt register right away. so you have to let her know. okay.
2006-12-06 02:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should come out and tell her how you feel, the longer you wait to get this off your chest the more difficult it will became for you to talk to you. if you wait to long someone esle may get her
2006-12-06 02:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Risa' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's dating someone and they have a child together. You stay the hell away!
2006-12-06 02:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sucks man. I feel you. Get her something special. if it works, then your job is done. If not, you may want to move on.
2006-12-06 02:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by broj7400 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd never get involved with a chick with a kid. Good luck
2006-12-06 02:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cant u find a good girl who has no baby??? a single girl who'll belong just to u???
2006-12-06 02:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Rose 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋