Me & my husband have been married for over 7 years now & have 2 kids together. For some reason, I fell out of love with him. I still care about him alot, which is why I don't want to hurt him, but, I know in my heart I do not Love him like I used to. Why does this happen & what can I do?
2006-12-06 01:52:37 · 18 answers · asked by Charlene S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that's perfectly normal. The "in-love" feeling doesn't last in married type relationships. Every couple is different so some last longer then others but eventually it will sizzle out and marital love which is an unconditional love for your spouse/significant other will surface.
I am adjusting to that myself. My fiance/husband (we've been together for 6 yrs) is a great guy and we realized how much we truly and deeply love one another but we are not "in-love".
You know, my mom always warned me about this kind of marital love I would be facing. She use to say "Kristina, marital love is different from being in-love, that feeling you are experiencing while young ...you'll see..." now that I'm int that kind of relationship, I finally understand what she meant by that...
lol luckily my parents displayed love and affection around the house so it left a good impression on me as an adult.
Hope this helps
Best wishes to you and yours sis!
2006-12-06 01:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by KrisJH24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question. Maybe some counseling would be beneficial for you. Even if it doesn't help you "save" your marriage, it will help you make decisions you need to make about your future.
Perhaps the day-to-day issues and stresses we all live with are getting to you. Sometimes we get comfortable in our lives and become a little "bored". The grass isn't always "greener" on the other side. I'd hate to see you find that out the hard way.
It's worth seeking some outside assistance to help you sort through your feelings and make a decision. The answers might surprise you, best of luck.
2006-12-06 09:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust wears off. If there is nothing else there it is time to part ways. If you still care and you have common goals you should stay together and work on the marriage. My wife and I have developed a deeper, lasting love. Reflect on what attracted you to him in the first place and try to recapture that. My wife and I are still very passionate, but not because of the lust that was intense early in our marriage. Good marriages require hard work from both husband and wife.
2006-12-06 10:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stopped loving my husband when I found out he cheated on me twice and was having a full on affair with a woman he worked with. We to have been together for 7 years. Sometimes you can fall out of love with a person if they aren't living up to your expectations. Like, if he's not being the man you need him to be, it can be so disappointing that your feelings change.
2006-12-06 10:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's love got to do with it? Feelings change. Have you ever thought that the reason why people fall in love is to procreate. Once you have children, there is really no need to be "in love". However, the greatest thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. All I am saying is this is not your fault. He is not doing the things to keep you in love with him so your marrriage can survive and your children can grow in a stable environment. I am sure he goes to work and earns money and pays the bills. Life is so much more than that....He needs to work at making you fall in love with him...there will always be car notes, mortgages and cell phone bills...
2006-12-06 10:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I konw the feeling. I too have fallen out of love w/ my wife, for alot
of reasons. Married 10 years 4kids and her daughter. I guess it was never meant to be and we've been fooling ourselves all along. Stay and be miserable or communicate to come up with ssolutions.
2006-12-06 10:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by M.D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people outgrow each other...their lives go in different directions so they no longer have anything in common. The honest thing to do would be to discuss it as adults and decide if you want to continue the relationship or move on to possibly find happiness with someone else.
2006-12-06 10:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew! I am feeling the same. We've been married 6 years with no children. I'm hoping that my feelings will come back. Good luck!!
2006-12-06 10:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we can fall out of love because of routine and allowing the romance to die. If you are seriously out of love with him yet want to rebuild it you both need to be honest with one another. Seek out counseling and therapy. Or move on being open honest and direct telling him how you feel allowing him to find someone that will be forever in love with him.
2006-12-06 09:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it might be for your husband to hear, you owe it to him to sit him down and tell him the truth. Maybe it is something you can rekindle, maybe not. The 2 of you have to figure it out. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-06 09:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋