I am not sure if this is a mental problem.
For years, i developed syptoms of having difficulties looking people straight in the face during a converstion. Lately this symptoms got worse, that it is affecting my concentration in the conversation.
I could only stares at their faces for a second and i have to turn my eyes to focus on other things.
Once, i tried to look striaght to their face will talking and i realise that i was engross staring to their eyes, lips, eyebrown and others.
Because of this problem, i tend to lose concentration easily.
Especailly to females.
How do i over come this problem?
2006-12-06 01:38:43 · 5 answers · asked by novkhan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This problem actually comes from a lack of self esteem. You seem to be expressing a fear of what people think of you, and that what you say isn't important to them. This is part of what is called body language and people will sense that you seem shy and uncomfortable. Look for people with friendly, empathetic eyes that you feel comfortable looking into. Look for them to smile when you say something nice or humorous. Little things like this, seeing positive reactions from people over time, can help you to overcome your problem. Also practice with a best friend or family member. Good luck to you, and remember that you are worth knowing and deserve to be heard.
2006-12-06 01:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by The Raven † 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have had similar experiences in the past. Strange that you ask because I had just recently started to try to look people in their eyes when I'm speaking to them.
I think a big reason for this is I had recently had a son and he ALWAYS looks me in the eye at 4mo when he interacts with me. The first step, in my opinion is finding a degree of inner peace first. Once you are feeling relatively calm and comfortable with yourself, make a conscious effort to look people in the eye every day all day long. It may be hard at first, but even if you have to force yourself to do it (look into each eye alternately after several seconds) you will find it to be easier and easier.
You will also find that people respect you more when you look them in the eyes when speaking to them. Start with friends and family. Before you know it, you will be staring strangers, and even those who make life miserable right in the eyes!! Be strong my friend, I have been in your situation and have come out happier and more satisfied because of my hard work at this.
A good thing to do if you are having trouble is before interacting with someone, close your eyes and ground yourself in the reality that nothing is permanent and everything will eventually fade away. For some reason this will give you the perspective (and courage) to overcome your fears.
2006-12-06 01:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, I'm shy or uncomfortable. I find a spot between the person's eyes, or stare at the nose or mouth.
2006-12-06 01:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sally 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I read this other answer u had and i agree with him.. U could try looking in the mirror and saying a speech or something to yourself this may help build your confidence in yourself to look at others while talking..
2006-12-06 01:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it might seem strange, but try watching television.
then practise maintaining eye contact with the presenters/actors, etc.
make sure you dont stare though. dont want to nurture a stalker appearance
2006-12-06 01:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋