Is it really an honor to give your husband/boyfriend a son as a first born?

Question

Because I want kids someday and to me giving a boy is really honorable but I mean if it's a girl it's still wonderful but a boy being born first would be even better I gets it's the great feeling of giving birth to your mans son

Answer 1

The best present my wife ever gave me was a son for our first born. A girl is still precious to a man, but having a son to raise and grow to be a man is the most proud thing a man can experience.

Answer 2

Hello in some cultures and countries having a son as the first born is very honorable, but the woman or man can't determine this. What ever the sex of the baby, the fact that a healthy baby is born should be the honor whether a boy or a girl.

Answer 3

It's an honor that you married him, that you committed your love and devotion to him for the rest of your life. Kids are great, but their gender, at least in the US, does not convey and additional honor.

How you raise them might though. I grew up in the 70s when the women's lib movement was really heated up, and parents were told (and many continue to be told) that boys and girls are the same, and need to be raised exactly the same. Turns out (as our grandparents knew) that's all a crock.

First of all, EVERY child is unique and if you want to be a successful parent you find out what makes yours tick and constantly adjust your parenting approach to their needs. By that I do NOT mean that you should be lenient or their best friend, those are bug mistakes. What I mean is that some approaches to a kid turn them off, and some turn them on. You have to find the approach that will get you the result you want. The result is the important thing.

And yes, there are clear gender preferences and boys and girls in general respond differently to their parents. So give both boys and girls trucks to play with, but still expect most girls to be WAY more emotional than boys, and expect most boys to be WAY more rowdy than girls.

A great book to start with is Cynthia Tobias' "Every Child Can Succeed".

You'll honor your whole family by making your primary jobs to be 1)wife and 2)fully committed mom.

Answer 4

Obviously men are far and above women in your society. That's a pity; women are every bit as valuable as men. There is nothing honorable about having a son that is any more honorable than having a daughter. What's honorable is for the man to accept his offspring and work as hard as he possibly can to raise all his children to be the best they can be, with exactly equal opportunity and with the skills to meet those opportunities head on. Any man who behaves otherwise is a sub-human barbarian.

Answer 5

In some cultures it's looked at as an honorable thing. A child, wether it be a boy or a girl, is a blessing and at the end of the day, that's all that really matters.

Answer 6

well now, giving a man any child of his that you carried for 9 months is an honor. Because any child is a gift, and a blessing...if you only consider a baby boy to be of worth, then you are saying that of yourself, you have no worth because you were born a girl.

Answer 7

In some cultures it is considered an honor if the first born is a boy. I don´t understand why though

Answer 8

You are clearly not ready to have a baby. A real man would be honored whether a boy or girl. My daughter in law and son just had their first child, a baby girl and he could not be prouder

Answer 9

The honour of the first-bon being a son is an old tradition coming from ages where men and wmen weren't not equal, in our modern world i think they can both be a source of happiness, the concept of "honour" of the gender of the first born seems to be less important.
But, whatever century we are in, we can choose the gener of our children and that is a sign of the need fo the parents to love their children whatever they become.

Answer 10

In some cultures it is a honor. In our culture it is a blessing whether it is a boy or girl. You should be honored to have any child for your husband / boyfriend.

I know I was!