hi all
i am a gay n really fed of the life i am living
i wish to become a straight. I know its in my genes but is there any way out to lead a normal life because i am not enjoying my life n its all because of my sexuality
plz help ........
2006-12-06 01:31:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The best you can hope for is to suppress your feelings, but you will not become straight.
You might work on accepting who you are (whatever that is) rather trying to become something you are not. You are seeking a quick fix answer to bigger issues surrounding your sexuality that aren't because you are gay, but struggles with external forces and possibly with roots to your upbringing. Come to terms with that, get professional help if need to.
You can have a well adjusted life as a gay person, but you must work at it just like every other person on earth works at it. Becoming straight is not a cure all, and we see all the time here, that they too have serious issues. Get help.
2006-12-06 01:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, there's no scientifically accepted method for turning gay men straight. There is simply no objective proof that it works; there are only the dubious testimonials of people who really, really, really wish that they weren't gay, and who will do or say anything to convince themselves of it.
It doesn't sound as though your sexuality is really the problem anyway, so much as the fact that you are not enjoying your life. Sometimes life isn't all that enjoyable. But depending upon how bad you feel and what other symptoms you might have, you could be suffering from depression.
It is not uncommon for men who are struggling with sexual identity issues to become depressed, often because they believe that there is something wrong, sick, damaged, sinful, or otherwise unacceptable about themselves.
The good news is that depression does respond to treatment, often through a combination of psychotherapy and psychiatric medications. Finding a good therapist who is competent, sensitive, and respectful with regard to gay issues would be a good first step for you to take.
Avoid any therapist who suggests that your sexual orientation can be changed, as both the American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association have affirmed that homosexuality is not a disease, and therefore cannot be "cured."
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-06 02:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Superman!
I read this kind of questions several times here- from so many confuse people.
And my answer is NO NO and no.
Gays are born as gay. And will always be gay forever and ever. It's in the DNA to be gay. Natural born gay. Not because someone is making it for you. Period. Nothing could change it. Not even God or Angels or Mohammed or Kaballists. No one.
Everyone actually have the tendency to get attracted to the same gender. But the quantity in everyone is different from each others. Even the most straight men ever have the tendency in himself, even if it's only 1%, to get attracted with other man, it's just the circumstances, environments and ambients around him doesn't give him any chance to taste a man. Same to women as well.
If you are fed up with your gayness then try to be gay more. Yes.... Let it flow. Be happy. Do not fight the wave, or it will become your biggest monster.. and it will make you so unhappy after all. Live your life as a gay completely. Have fun because life is short.
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2006-12-06 01:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
To be gay is one thing - it does not have to determine the kind of life you lead. That remains within your own choice. There are gays who are in quiet relationships, there are gays who are celibate - sex and how you express it is not the only dimension of life. An important one, no question - but not the only one, and perhaps not the determining one.
What aspects of your current life do you hate? Force yourself to be specific when you think about that question. That's what you need to change -
Love is a strange and wonderful force. I have two dear friends who were not Lesbian. But one day they met each other and fell in love and have been together for years. They would deny they are lesbian - they don't live a "lesbian lifestyle" - they are simply two people who love each other, and the other happens to be of the same sex.
Once you have named the areas of your life that you hate - also name the parts of your life that you like, that are rewarding. Focus on those - change the ones you hate.
Your sexual orientation may or may not change as the other aspects of your life change. But you will be happier.
It's not an easy question. Be wary of easy answers.
2006-12-06 02:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well.. You can lie to yourself for the rest of your life, and claim yourself as straight. If you really wanted to become straight, I guess you could? You would just have to force it onto yourself, which would probably make your life even more confusing and stressful.
I say just be yourself and try and live life to the fullest, don't try and change who you are for others. Because in the end, what they say won't matter at all.
And, you can lead a normal life being gay. Sure, it's a little harder because you have to deal with the ignorance of people, but it can be done.
Good luck, and I hope you find what you're looking for in life.
2006-12-06 01:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
exciting question. I actual have accepted people who have been supposedly directly to without notice grow to be gay, yet in no way any opposite direction around. i've got self belief that somebody must be born gay, and that this isn't any longer some thing that they are in a position to alter. learn tutor that gay everyone seems to be born with an further chromosome that provides female or masculine characteristics and bills for his or her sexual determination. as an occasion: at the same time as we are born with XY chromosomes for male and XX for female, somebody could have XX with a latent y chromosome or XY with yet another latent x chromosome. this is what some scientist and genealogist account for homosexuality as a organic and organic factor. it particularly is a few thing that may not have the ability to be altered or replaced because of employing determining to no longer be gay anymore.
2016-10-14 03:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as you can't turn a straight person gay, you cannot turn a gay person straight. You can mask yourself and pretend to be something you wish you were. Beneath the mask you still have the same face. I understand wanting to be society's belief of normal because you don't have to deal with the pressures of being ridiculed for your sexuality, and you have more of a chance to have a family. However, you'd just end up hurting others with the facade. Never be ashamed of yourself. You didn't choose to be born homosexual just as you didn't choose what color your eyes would be, your height, or the color of your skin. We're all different and rather than be ridiculed for those differences, we should be embraced for them.
2006-12-06 01:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
No.
Learn to deal with the hand you were dealt. You can't get new cards.
Give your self the time and education you need to make the most of your gifts. Join gay lesbian groups and charities, read up on gay issues and keep your self informed.
It gets better. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-06 02:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not if you are truely gay.As far as i know Prejudise is probably the reason you feel that way not because you do not enjoy gay ness.Be who you are and do not let any one convince you it is wrong for all love is good love
2006-12-06 01:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Deja Vu --- wasn't this question already asked? The answer is no ... no no no !!!
I think the only reason you're not enjoying your life is because you aren't accepted in your family or community. If you are old enough, you need to strap on your boots and move on. Be true to yourself and never deny who you are.
Keep peace in your mind and love in your heart. You will move past this bad patch and find happiness. Be strong.
2006-12-06 01:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by spartexcites 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋