2006-12-06 01:25:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You won't. A cheater is a cheater...loyal to no one.
2006-12-06 01:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you mean trust the person who cheated? Thats not gonna happen....no matter what that is always gonna be in the back of your head & it will eat & you & cause many problems. You need to let them go, plus 9 times outta 10 they will do it again...trust me!
As hard as it is to move on & be without them, you need to tell yourself that you will be ok, you deserve nothing less than to be respected & get back the same amount of effort that you put in. You will find that & when you finally do leave you will feel a tremendous weight lifted from your shoulders!!!
And if you have children, do NOT stay in the marriage "for them" that is the worst reason to stay in a relationship. Its not healthy for you or the children. I wish my parents would have divorced 5 years b4 they actually did, because NOONE benefited from them staying together!
GOOD LUCK & HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
2006-12-06 09:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really cant. Especially the person who cheated on you. Even going into a new relationship there will be trust issues. Its something that you just have to deal with. If you plan on staying with the person who cheated, you take the chace of them cheating again. Is that something you want? Move on and find someone who wont cheat on you and values your trust.
2006-12-06 09:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If its a boyfriend I wouldnt and move on and find someone else.If its your spouse u have more invested and need to think it thru .Its never like you can get back to where you were before the infedelity.Its more like excepting that they hurt you and are you willing to go thru it again possibly?Im sorry but my x cheating on me and he did it again yrs later then I divorced him.Im a strong believer that once they cheat its over and its time to wake up about your relationship,Its so easy not to see when u just assume everything is fine.But if they cheat its not fine its a wake up call .The relationship is pretty much over.I feel your pain ,let them go!
2006-12-06 09:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. The trust is broken. You can only trust a cheater to cheat. Stay if you wish to be cheated on again.
2006-12-06 09:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This an easy question to ask with no easy answer. I have been in that same situation and wandered the same thing then two things happened. 1st I found God and learned he is always with us no matter how bad things get and he has a plan for us all we to do is just have to be patient. 2nd I met my current wife who went through the same thing, We statred to talk and hang out got to know each other then we dated for a couple of years and we have been married for two years, The only thing I can suggest is to be patient God has a plan for you and he has a person in mind for you who will treat you right and not cheat just trust in God.
2006-12-06 09:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by jrpergande 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust the cheater or any man? if it's any man than that comes with time. the hurt will fade and someone new will somehow get in past the wall u've put up and you will find urself trusting again. if u meant the cheater, that's harder. that takes lots of time, talking, honesty, remorse, lesson-learning and forgiveness. It's a hard road and I only recommend it if u truly honestly love him and he truly honestly loves you and is sorry.
2006-12-06 09:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if u forgive and forget, and don't bring it up. but in your mind it will always be there, and u will constantly be looking for it to happen again. it does affect how we saw our significant other, does kill the innocence of the marriage. but if u want to go back with them, u just have to trust them, and have faith that it will never happen again.
2006-12-06 15:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's a boyfriend, then i wouldn't, i would move on. now a husband may be a different story, if you want to save the marriage, it will take alot of time, him understanding how u feel, and maybe even counseling. he has to know that u may feel very betrayed, hurt, and just plain angry. if you decide to work this out i wish you the best of luck!
2006-12-06 09:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of time, Lots of love, nah that won't work. You can't there will always be a niggling little doubt in the back of your mind.
2006-12-06 10:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard and something that doesnt come easy but you have to get on you cant hold what someone else has done against another it takes longer to trust but you.ll get there good luck
2006-12-06 09:30:18 · answer #11 · answered by keevy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋