I work in an office environment so at times it is normal for me to answer or make calls to others. Problem is, I sometimes need to muster up this form of 'courage' before making a call. Usually occurs with strangers. I will take at least a minute or two, walk around, take a deep breath, and pick up the receiver. Even questions to ask, I'll need to jot them first on paper and put them by my side. Short conversations are fine, but I may start getting a little jittery when it gets a little longer.
I also have a problem talking face to face with people of higher authority, eg; my boss. Gets nervous, jittery, a little stammering and all that. Cut it short, I can't be fluent.
Is there a way to fight this ? And what causes it ?
2006-12-06 01:25:31 · 6 answers · asked by Fai 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Most successes come when people are consistant in their effort to reach their goal. Realize that one day, when you've gotten so used to talking to anybody that you CAN talk to anybody, you'll still have a measure of nervous tension. Don't let nervousness confuse you, it's not the whole picture. If you can separate the jitters from your desire to perform (speak to strangers), you'll see that progress is ongoing, and as long as you can notice it, you'll feel your confidence growing.
I guess what causes the jitters is just human nature. I've never heard of ANYone who doesn't get nervous before a speech, performance, confrontation, anything like that. The thing is, some of us will ACCEPT that it's this way, and plow on forward anyway.
And so shall you. Nobody knows how you feel inside, and your voice sounds more shakey inside your head than what your listener can detect. You can bluff. How does a confidant person act, sound, carry him/herself? How does that voice sound? Copy it.
At Alcoholics Anonymous they have a saying, "fake it 'till you make it". Handy little slogan, um? Don't hafta' drink to use it.
2006-12-06 01:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone feels this way to some extent. Making a call to a stranger means taking a risk. The person might be rude or hang up on you or ask you something you can't answer. It is a performance and you are on the spot. I actually work in phone sales, which is odd because I am very shy usually and have trouble speaking in front of groups. Somehow it is easier when it is just one on one calling someone, but still I get nervous before each call. On a bad day when I am not feeling confident it is really hard to pick up the phone and call someone. Other days I get into a sort of rhythm and just rattle off a bunch of calls. Still, there are times when I am praying I get voicemail instead of the person.
2006-12-06 01:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. What causes it is nothing more than a lack of confidence - thinking for some reason that you "aren't good enough", which of course isn't true. It's caused by nerves! Perhaps taking a public speaking course at your local college will help. You are doing the right thing by writing down your notes before making the call.
2006-12-06 01:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats why I didn't call you but rather opted for this forum.
seriously, it is just a manifestation of fear,similar to "stage fright"
you need more confidence in yourself-I think facing the problem on a daily basis and experiencing small victories -little by little you can over come this phobia.--in the meantime possibly your family physician could prescribe some anti-anxiety psycotropic aid (drug) to get you through for a short time.
2006-12-06 01:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, happened to me too.
Then I stopped caring what anyone thought.
2006-12-06 01:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! That impossible.
2016-05-22 23:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋