i am having a hard time dealing with my 13 year old pregnant sister and i am 15 what should i do?

Question

(PREGNANT SISTER YITS)

Answer 1

well u r going to have to support her through it and help her out with what ever decisions she is going to make

Answer 2

I'm using my husband's account to answer this one, because I've run out for the day.

This really hits home for me. I was just over 16 when I got pregnant. I had a little boy a month and a half before I turned 17. He'll be 8 years old this May.

I can only imagine how tough this must be for you. For one, I'm sure you're angry about the whole thing. You can't believe she did this...ect. I would think you're scared for your little sister too. I'm sure there are a hundred different things going through your head right now. Now try to imagine what this is like for her. She's still a little girl, and she's about to be a Mom. She might be young, but I'll bet she realizes how huge that is. It's absolutely terrifing. I agree with the guy that says try hard not to be mad at her. I'm the oldest in my family, but I have a sister that's only 15 months younger than me. She was really mean to me while I was pregnant, and even after my little boy was born. It broke my heart. She's always been a doll to her nephew, but I'm sorry to say that she and I will never be close because of some of the things she's said to me in the past (regarding my pregnancy).

With everything you must be feeling, I would advise you to talk to your sister. Don't be mean, try to be understanding. Give her a hug and tell her that you love her, no matter what. She made a bad decsion, but we all do that on occasion. She needs to know that her big sister still loves her, and you sound like you could do with a hug yourself! My best wishes to you, your sister, and your new niece or nephew. I promise, no matter what you may be feeling towards your sister right now, you WILL love that baby!

Answer 3

I know that you must be having a hard time with this, but you need to look at it from your sister's perspective. Whether she got pregnant intentionally or not, she is pregnant. The best thing you can do is just be supportive. Your sister will be going through a very hard time in the next few months and will need all the love and support she can get. Things will get hard and you might even begin to get less attention because of this, but always remember this, she is your sister. No matter what happens to either of you, she will always be your sister. If nothing else, look on the positive side of things: you will be an aunt! I know it is different for me because I'm 31 and all my brothers, sisters, and my wife's brothers and sisters are all grown; but being an Uncle for me was one of the most wonderful things that could have ever happened to me. My wife and I are not able to have children. We have been married for over 10 years and we have always wanted children really bad. I now have 2 neices and 5 nephews ranging in age from 6 months to 8 years old. All though my wife and I are planning to adopt our own child one day, my neices and nephews have given me much hope. One day you will look back on this time in your life and wonder why this was such a big deal. Being that your sister is only 13 she may still be very immature and will have to grow up a lot faster now. She needs your help. She needs your love. She needs your understanding. Please don't judge her or hate her. I hope everything works out for you and your sister. I will remember you in my prayers. Take care.

Answer 4

I had this very same problem. I have 3 sisters (2 older, 1 younger) they all had their daughters before me. They've all had their moods and their cravings and I've had to deal with it. The best thing that I could say to you is try to understand that she's scared. She's 13. My sisters were young but they weren't that young when they had their daughters. I had my first child at 19 and I was scared as hell. I don't think I slept for the first 6 months. You also have to remember that she's going to miss out on a lot because of her pregnancy so try to do things with her that normal teens do such as have a movie night or a spa night.

Answer 5

13 and pregnant? Phew, that's pretty disgusting knowing that even 10 yr olds today know what leads to pregnancy. I'm not saying she should be shunned, but this is the time she learns that her actions have consequences. You cuddle her through this and next year she'll have another baby.

Her mistakes are hers and you need to make sure she takes care of herself and the baby during the pregnancy. After the pregnancy, she's solely responsible. She goes to school, she takes care of the baby, she wakes up at 4am, etc.

Answer 6

You should live your life, and don't make the same mistakes that your sister is making. I realize that if your sister doesn't move out that you're going to have it hard, but think of how hard she's going to have it. Try to live your life.. don't let it bother you too much.. it's going to be tough, but I think you can do it.

Answer 7

I guess you cannot bring things back. All you need to do is support her. I dont know, but our country prohbits abortion... And I dont want it also cause it's a form of killing. So, make sure that she decides something good. Remember, It's her life, and her decision. All you can do is to advice and support.

wish you luck.

Answer 8

only one thing to do....don't do what she did...don't go out and have sex before you are ready too. she's only thirteen so that shows that she pretty much a slut already. if she does it when she 13, she'll do it even more...being pregnant at a young age ruins kids, teenagers, lives. it's stupid...don't open you legs....
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Answer 9

welll the little sl.ut shouldn't have been having sex in the first place. or at least using protection. thats what they made condoms for.

Answer 10

Be there for her.