I need a letter to write to my wife?

Question

I am still married but my wife and I are in the middle of a divorce. We have two kids and we are in two different states now. It hurts me that my kids have to go back and forth between us and I think we should try to work it out for their sake. Can you gimme a letter or suggestions of what to put in a letter to convince her that we should do whats in the best interest of the kids!

Answer 1

I think the two state thing is hard. If she has custody you might want to think about relocating back there so that you can be closer to your kids. Write with your heart. Be cordial be nice, but tell her the bottom line we need to put our differences on the side and our main objective is to raise to full potential.

Answer 2

I think you have to ask yourself: Do I want my wife because I love her and can't live without her? or Do I want my wife because it's best for the children? If the first answer is yes, then you need to court your wife and work toward a reconciliation. I don't know what caused the split, but can it be mended? Can you fall in love with each other again? If so, be persistent. She may not be receptive at first, not trusting your motives. You must be true to your heart. A letter may be a start, to state your intentions, but nothing is going to be the same as it was - it will be harder than it was the first time you courted. And what about location? Someone is going to have to move in order to accomplish the mission and chances are it won't be her. As they say: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Make sure you know what you are getting into and what her feelings are. This has to be a two-sided relationship. Not just about you.

Answer 3

ok, the question is... Are the kids better with mom and dad being together, and hating every minute of it.. arguing, fighting, etc... or is it better to see both parents happy living their own lives and not hating their relationship (marriage).. I don't know the exacts of your marriage, but it obviously ended for some reason and you should really think about things.. If you want to be with your wife, do it because you love her and want to be with her.. not just for the kids..... I'm not saying this is your situation but if 2 parents stay together for the kids sake and they cant stand each other,there are going to be fights and things said and that only teaches the child that its ok to do that.. Would you want you daughter or son staying in a marriage that he/she was miserable in???? I wish you the best of luck...

Answer 4

Hey you know people can view your past questions right. You're a liar man or your life is really screwed up. Based up your previously asked questions

1. you slept with your wife's twin sister
2. you've been sleeping with your nanny
3. you're in the middle of a divorce
4. kids are in another state
5. you want your wife, nanny, and kids to live together
6. And you also have a girlfiend that hit you with a pot
7. You are a woman beater

Answer 5

Anything that you put down in writing and give to her in regards to the kids should be read first by your lawyer as she may be able to use it against you when it comes time to discuss custody and child support payments.

It's a very tricky thing to discuss and you haven't stated if you want the kids more often than not, just on weekends, only on holidays, or not at all. Once you figure it out and put it down on paper, have your lawyer read it first. It could land you in bigger trouble than you originally intended.

Answer 6

try some thing like this: "i gained't be the most romantic guy to be married to yet you're having an impact on me. i considered writing a romantic letter and dang it to hell right here i'm giving it a try! I only write to assert i love you. I only write to assert how a lot I care. I only write to assert i love you and that i advise it from the bottom of my heart.... properly, Stevie ask your self's heart... yet meah... i don't have a lot mind's eye do I ... yet I do love you and that i'm getting exhilaration from that you try troublesome to love me decrease back even although i'm about as romantic as a paddock finished of thistles. Love JD"

Answer 7

don't write a letter. go to her face to face and tell her what is in your heart. don't put blame on either of you. don't pressure her, only tell her how much you love her. but if you are attempting to reconcile only for the kids, don't. they'll be better off living with divorced parents than in an unhappy home. if that's the case, or if u do still lover her, but she rejects you, move closer to her for the kids' sake so they can still have only one school and a shorter drive to see the other parent and be close to their friends at either house.

Answer 8

NEVER, may I repeat never try to "stay together for the kids". Trust me when I tell you this cuz I was one of those kids! My older sister didn't want our parents to divorce at least until she graduated high school cuz she didn't want to be "from a broken home". Needless to say it was more broke with them staying together! Complete hell!!!!!!!! The whole family ended up funked up mostly because of it.

If you both decide to do it for yourselves and yourselves ONLY, them go ahead and try but don't be naive.

Answer 9

it is a real hard time for you, i cann tell and i am sorry, but dont try to convince yourself that your doing it for the good of the children. you have to try to remember why the 2 of you split in the first place. my mom& dad would break up and get back together, and i think it hurt me more that it helped me. kids are so resillant and they will be ok, i promise.

Answer 10

this is a letter,

hi, i kno things havent been working out between us but i still love u, and want to give it another chance i want to kno if u want to do the same, i miss you loads, write bk love ??????