Is depression common in the first years of marriage due to stress?

Question

Hi, I got married last years and lots of changes have happened in my life, also very little support from my family.
I feel very depressed, is it common due to all the stress?

Answer 1

hey it is the same thing over here and i can tell you, find some one you can trust and you can talk to!!!
if you can talk about your problems or what ever it is in your marriage, that makes you depressed, you will feel a lot better than you do now!!
good luck

Answer 2

It's not unheard of, but it shouldn't be an excuse for depression either.

In my first year of marriage, I had a lot of life changes -- new spouse, new town, new apartment, new jobs, new college -- and it got really crazy! At no point, however, would I say I was depressed, just busy.

Don't just put it off and assume it will get better -- get yourself a counselor, or just talk to some family or friends who know you and would understand your situation. Talk to your husband as well -- how does he feel about the past year? Good luck

Answer 3

1. I am a very a independent person. I have always been one who has had plenty of friends, but chooses to go eat out alone or go see a movie alone etc. But will I feel isolated too much being home all day? You'll only be home all day if you choose to be. You've said yourself that you're in a classroom where 2/3 of the class is BS. So, half an hour per subject is learning in school; why would it be different at home? 2. Although I am very close with my friends, I am afraid not having public high school in common we will not be as close. I keep up with friends who are in school. You do lose one aspect of a shared experience but you can still be close friends. I've stayed close to my best friend, who I met in kindergarten even though I've been out of school from fourth grade on. 3. Boyfriend. I don't have one right now, but am worried that it will be difficult to get one once I am homeschooled. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together almost a year. Still happy, looks like it'll stay that way. Again, the only way you'll end up isolated when you're homeschooled is if you isolate yourself. Go to places where there are boys, and you'll probably end up dating one of them eventually if that's what you want. 4. I know I will come across people who will find me odd, and try to preach to me why I shouldn't be homeschooled (I'm sure some will answer this question), but how do I deal with it? They're idiots and don't know anything about you, your life, or how homeschooling's working for you. Think of it like this: You're out in your BMW, and while you're waiting at a red light the guy next to you leans out of his Honda and tells you that BMWs suck and people who use them can't actually drive. It's hard, but just ignore them. They're usually arrogant and ignorant. 5. Also, will I really really regret not being able to walk for graduation, and if I am not invited to a prom, not being able to attend prom? Many homeschoolers have graduation ceremonies and proms. I didn't go to the prom last year but I'm going to go this year. It looked like a lot of fun from the pictures and stories I heard. The bottom line is that people are people whether or not they go to school, and the social instinct is universal. It sounds like homeschooling would be perfect for you. I was going to recommend an online school but it looks like you beat me to it. If you're religious, your religious institution probably has a homeschooler group or at least a youth group of some sort. You could look in to joining that. Or, take a class on something you're already good at so you can focus on the social aspect. That will help you with having friends you can chill with until your friends from school are around.

Answer 4

No, there is no reason for it to be this way. Something is not right if you are under stress due to this marriage. Fix the problem(s) and the stress will go away.

But don't live under stress, in the long run, stress kills.

Answer 5

The first year of marriage is the hardest. So depression is pretty common when you realize your fairy tale life isn't what you expected.

Answer 6

some time change can make people unhappy because they have lost there independents but in reality you have Gan a partner that will help you to become more independent. and when life give you hardship you have some to fall back on the help you through your next adventure.

Good luck and try to stay happy let time do it's thing.

Answer 7

Why get depressed about things you can't change the first years of mariage are suppose to be the best and you are suppose to depend on your spouse for support not your family.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I had it and still do after 10+ years. Of course, I get no help from him whatsoever and he's a putz... so there's my reason for the depression.

Answer 10

ive been married for less than a year and im depressed too shouldnt i be happy