My friend and I hung out a lot during the summer. But, now I just don't have the time! I have so much stuff to do before Christmas. And, I took on a second job as "holiday help" for extra cash. We're both single and live by ourselves. I have Christmas gifts to make, my family does a lot of things around the holiday, I'm having a holiday party and need to do some major cleaning around my apartment. I tell my friend all of this and she wants me to come over and watch Christmas movies and get drunk with her. I wouldn't be able to have a good time knowing I have so much stuff to do. I suggested that she can help me out a little if she wants to hang out, but she's not interested. She wants to sit around and do nothing. She doesn't have any close family, where as my family has a lot of family traditions around the holidays that I want to be there for. I called her last night & she half- jokingly told me I was a brat for ignoring her. I'm not ignoring her, I'm just busy!
2006-12-06 00:34:32 · 6 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She sounds lonley. You said she doesn't have any close family, and you do. She's probably a little envious that you have 'so much to do' and she has nothing to do, because she has no one to do it for. That's why she doesn't want to help you, it probably (deep inside) hurts too much. It's hard not having anyone, especially around the holidays, when there's so much togetherness. Try to include her in , even if she says no, try again. Sounds like she needs some family traditions to cheer her up.
2006-12-06 00:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me she's a brat. she must never do anything around the holidays with family. Don't worry about anything she will get over it, she has no choice in the matter. Just because she upset that your busy doing and planning things for your family doesn't mean all that is going to stop but you did invite her. If she gets that upset maybe she likes you more than a friend.
2006-12-06 08:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by missy87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and explain the situation to her in the nicest way. Or you can always invite her to every errand you must run. Nobody wants to do that.
2006-12-06 08:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could include her in your familie's activities. Other than that, just keep in touch with her, & keep telling her the truth. She's probably just lonely & emotional, she'll get over it.
2006-12-06 08:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she wants to come over, she got to help clean. she sounds depressed, tell her to see a mental health professional.
2006-12-06 08:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that LIFE is not easy................
And your LIFE is still early.....................
there is so much time for the two of you to hang.............
2006-12-06 08:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by phage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋