has anyone actually "taken a break" from someone for a while, and it worked?

Question

i.e. you got back together and stayed that way, happier and better-informed about who was out there and why you really loved your partner?

i only ever hear of bad luck with that idea but it sounds good in theory.

Answer 1

Well, it really depends on what you are tryin to achieve when pausing a relationship and the maturity of the mental state of the couple involved.
A relationship could reach a bottle-neck at a stage when both wonder why are they still together but are unwilling to let go because they are already so used to one another. A pause and away from one another could send some time to both to do some "inner searching" to see if you really miss each other or you are happier to be single and available once more.
But some started it with the wrong objective of just to get away from their partner and that could just backfire. Instead, you could just take a short vacation and come back.

Have fun!

Answer 2

I've done it 2 or 3 times, and in my experiences it always went down like this; for the first few days or so (after reuniting) everything is new again and it feels great reconnecting (I think absence really does make the heart grow fonder). Then after the first few days, or week, or whenever you stop being "extra nice" to each other and the "make up sex" is no longer as passionate, (what happens?), you start to be your normal selves again and the same old problems reemerge. e.g. He still acts like a jerk when he's drunk, and he still leaves his toenail clippings on the bed. While he still feels like you are always nagging him, and acting like a Beeotch, etc, etc.
Well anyway, I can guess by now you're probably thinking my advice to you would be, "don't do it", but I say, "do it", because it's a great "few days". Just make sure you go into the situation w/ your eyes wide open and your expectations real. Remember that it's very hard for people to change their ways and that things may not work out.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything goes the way you want.

Answer 3

Yup, I did and it worked. I dated a guy all through high school and a little bit past graduation. He wanted to take a break, and I thought it might be a good idea, because we were the only significant other the other had ever had. 5 years later and we've been married for 2 years.. and couldn't be happier. We each went our separate ways and dated other people for 3 years, lost track of each other.. and finally.. found each other again as if it were meant to be.

Answer 4

If there is enough of a reason to take a break, you should only get back together if you and the other person are different. Two people who split up can't try to make it work again if their views and feelings are the same. My husband and I split up for a week in the first year of our dating relationship, and we got back together and eventually were married. The big downside were the things he chose to do while we were split up. We had to work through those things because even though we weren't together, they really affected me. If you really love the other person there shouldn't be any reason for a break. You should want to fix things together.

Answer 5

YES...I have... my husband and I dated in high school...and as most high school relationships do, we broke up....we both married and had kids with different ppl. And Now....15 years later, we are together again and HAPPIER THAN EVER! It's great that we know each others pasts, and old friends. Old habits and old dreams. We are better than any couple I've even known. It's amazing how life can throw you apart, then throw you together again....out of nowhere!! It's fun to go through old year books, and run into friends that say "OMG, you're STILL together!!!" I love to see thier faces!!!

Now that we are together, we realize that we are ment to be together. Not with our ex's....but together...we have all our kids here with us and we are one big happy family...most of the time!! LOL...and I tell him "If I don't hate you yet, after 15 years, I never will, & if I haven't found anything wrong with you, after 15 years, I never will" I love him to death!!...good luck!!

Melissa

Answer 6

Everyone is different.

But I do know that when me and my EX took a break from one another.....we kept the break going for 3 years now. I think it's good to get alone time when needed but not for extended periods if you feel as if you really want to be with someone. I have never believed in farness makes the heart yearn, I've always found it to be the exact opposite.

Answer 7

Marci.... you do no longer understand terrific. My dogs will bypass nap in the crate with the door open. Thundershirts are not quite high priced. it quite is worth a attempt. My dad and mom dogs has severe separation stress as a results of fact my mom continues to be at domicile all day so on days she's long gone, she makes use of that. he continues to be under pressure, yet he now no longer cries and howls. A drained dogs is a satisfied dogs. Take him for an hour long walk, or longer, in the past you bypass away. an somewhat drained dogs is going to purely sleep on an identical time as your long gone. Pair that with the thunder blouse and optimistically your situation is solved!

Answer 8

It worked for me.. Me and my b/f separated for about 2 months.. We both ended up dating someone else, but soon realized what we both had together. After we got back together things were much better.... This may not be for all couples, but it did work for me... I just wish I would of never dated someone else..Thats the only regret I have.. Even though I didnt cheat , I feel like I did..

Answer 9

I really don't know. It is supposed to work in damn theory but life itself ain't theory but practical stuff, so be careful.
I am currently in this same situation with my girl, so, hope it works. It all depends on how much do you love each other and for how long can you stay separated, of course, with meeting another people.
Note: Period of this shouldn't be longer than appro 6 months.

Answer 10

it dont work
so dont waste your time
if you guys break up and want to go see other people that means that you aint good for each other all that taking a break is is a blind mans freebee. which means that you and her are going to go sleep with other people and then get back together IF you dont like the person you were sleeping with.

its easier if you just become swingers cause thats what it is essentialy.
so to answer your question no its not a good idea and it never works out cause soon you and her will be saying "i need a break" again