what does that say about the husband? he yells at me , but if I raise my voice to the dog .......oh brother......and here we go!!!
Does anyone have a suggestion?
Feeling Like a ***** in Texas.
2006-12-05 23:06:30 · 17 answers · asked by texasgirl_nascar.freak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guess you should start barking and trying to wag his tail...
2006-12-05 23:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sassysaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think that someone out there has the same problem with my uncle, Well you see the only difference is that my uncle was in your position and your husband was in my aunt shoes. You know it's really funny and at the same time humiliating for my uncle, actually he is in more difficult situation because my aunt dogs can seat in the sofa, while my uncle is only allowed to seat on the floor. Probably, people would think that we maybe making up this kind of story but it is so true.
Honestly, i really know how painful and depress you feel but no matter what you say and millions of counselling you and your husband would attend nothing would change (trust me). It's like they had this weirdo way of thinking etc. If you love your husband that much and your ready to stretch your patience with him for the rest of your life, then continue the relationship. But if you can't take it anymore, i think you have to ask for some spaces and think things over, then decide wisely on what action is needed to be taken.
2006-12-06 07:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What it says about the wife is that she's tolerating things she should not be and she needs help. It is bad for your health and self-esteem (and anyone else around) for you to be devalued, demeaned or treated in a mean way. This is NOT love.
What it says about the husband is that he's verbally abusive (or worse?) and also needs help, tho' he probably won't go for it. Is he using drugs or alcohol? If abusive behavior isn't stopped, it will get worse, not better!!! Is he physically hurting you in any way? If he does, call the police. You can also go to a women's shelter and they will help you. Just call 911.
Regardless of the above, I strongly suggest you get a great book called, The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. It is easy to read and a really, really good book.
P.S. Please don't yell at the dog... it won't help.
2006-12-06 07:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take this the wrong way...but dogs and cats always accept you just the way you are. They are happy to see you after a bad day at work or if you forgot to take out the trash or whatever. Think about that and maybe you will have your answer. Could you be more accepting of him? If you are doing everything you know to make the relationship work and he still treats them better than you...go to counseling or get rid of the husband.
2006-12-06 07:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Looks like he is so attached to his pets. But somehow, I just cannot understand, or accept, if i had a relationship with someone, that person actually yelling at me over the pets. That is so strange, unless ofcourse if you are mistreating the pets, which I assume you are not. You have to talk to him, it sounds funny that your husband and you have fights over this. Talk, and try to solve this issue, and then I really really feel you and your husband needs to see some counsellor and find out just whats wrong with your husband to be obsessed with his pets, and get upset when you do shout at them. I mean, figure out who is important in the house. It should be you right ?
2006-12-06 07:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is treating the animals better then you that should tell you he is a jerk. You deserve better, maybe it is time to move on and who knows if you do he may get a wake-up call and maybe he won't. Either way you deserve better and it would seem that he is not seeing it that way. No one deserves to be treated badly and you need to put him in his place and let him know it is not acceptable for him to yell at you or treat the animals better then you. He should be in the dog house for what he is doing to you. I am not sure if that helps but I do wish you all the best and know that life is too short to go through it feeling as badly as you do. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-06 07:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is an asshole. Dump him and lets see if his dog can do the dishes, iron his clothes, clean the house and even have sex with him. And off course, he'll treat the dog better than you because the dog takes whatever you want to give it and won't ask anything. Sweetie, you're not an animal, you're a human being. Show your husband who you really are. And I still strongly recommend you dump him for good.
2006-12-06 07:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by M'lady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is too bad. He lost intrest on you. Don't worry. You start love his dog and cat. Don't expect anything from him for some time. whenever he plays with dog and cat you took participate with him. ask him to take them out for a walk and go along with him. he will really like these changes with you and he will start loves you. all the best.
2006-12-06 07:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by lan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says the wife and husband are overdue for a serious talk. Maybe counseling.
2006-12-06 07:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is saying that the wife is unappreciated and should either come to an understanding or kick somebody to the curb then move on.
2006-12-06 07:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for the tough talk. Ask him if he loves, what does it feel like, would he die for you, when he feels love does he feel closer to God, if he would like to take the wedding vows again, etc. These questions will undoubtedly anger him.
The next step is divorce. Life is good. Don’t subject yourself to a self-imposed hell.
2006-12-06 08:51:30 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋