how can i get my wife off sooner than myself? it bugs the hell out of me that it takes me FOREVER to get her off. i go usually 20 min into it and it takes me another 10-15 min to get her off...wtf?! any help would be appriciated..... if you cant give an adult answer dont bother answering....
2006-12-05 22:50:11 · 18 answers · asked by Ryan T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well you could do one of many things:
oral, vibrator, try a new position, or any number of toys!
As for the suck, no you kick *** for actually asking, and taking the time to let her enjoy herself first before you enjoy yourself!
Wish more men were that considerate rather than looking at you after they get off and ask, was it good for you?
2006-12-05 22:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by dragonbloodus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a good husband, some wouldn't even care!! It's just not as easy to get a woman off as it is a man. Our pleasure point is so small and for some men hard to find. lol If you and your wife have good communication and she isn't too shy, you could always ask her what she needs, or ask her to show you. If she's ever masturbated, and I'm sure she probably has, then she knows EXACTLY what she needs in the way of stimulation. Also a woman's frame of mind plays a big role in orgasm. If she's laying there worrying about something (kids, things she didn't get done at work, etc....) that will hinder her as well. So the key is to make sure she is totally relaxed. Maybe start things off with a nice back rub to relieve any tension she might be feeling. This will work out for you since you seem to care so much. But be patient, remember, Rome wasn't built in a day!! Good Luck
2006-12-05 23:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spend a lot longer on foreplay. Also most women can't achieve an orgasm without stimulation to the cliteros which normal penatrative sex doesn't provide. Try sitting on the sofa and letting her get on top and guide the action. It will give better penetration and more stimulation in the right area. When she's finish, you can have your go.
2006-12-05 22:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women sometimes have a more difficult time having an orgasm than men do.
Many men, and I'm not saying you're one of them, don't take the time with their wives to stimulate her and make sure she's fully aroused before they take the plunge (excuse the pun).
Try beginning foreplay long before you ever get started to get her closer to the edge....that way, when you're ready to go, she's close too.
I'm not saying this will help all the time, but if you put some extra effort into arousing your wife, I think the rewards will be worth the effort.
Good luck.
2006-12-05 22:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, thanks for trying so hard. I think you should enjoy getting your wife off first. Then It wont be such a hard work. It's easier to get off seeing my husband enjoy what he do instead of knowing he's doing a favor. Then get her in the mood, yes, lots of foreplay will do the trick. Women have diffferent erotic zone, but usually it's the nipples and clitoris. Take time there. And for God sake ENJOY IT!
2006-12-05 22:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by miauwme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever discussed this with her? The best thing is to openly express your feelings to her. Maybe you are not doing exactly what she wants and she's too scared or embarrassed to tell you. Maybe your motion is too slow or too fast? I would suggest that next time you are intimate you suggest that she helps you (with her hand) and shows you exactly how she likes it and the rythm and movement that she needs. The only way you are ever going to know is through communicating with her. It's not easy, but in the end, you'll both be glad you did. Good luck!
2006-12-05 22:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by salstick 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what about foreplay, that usually works.. maybe some oral sex... women are very sensative down below... that usually works for alot of friends that i know .. maybe you shoulde try that. just go slow. not aggressive. be gentle . sometimes, it takes a women longer than a man. have fun.....
2006-12-05 22:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I hope you don't talk like that I bed. turn off. to much pressure and a fake will take place. Women like romance, the mood, slow and wet, sweet,low words and touch. slow dancing, removing clothes,breathing real close. making love not sex and getting off
2006-12-05 23:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's normal for a woman. You can't rush these things, the good things in life are worth waiting for.
2006-12-05 22:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to find the hot spot in your wife, find good position.
2006-12-05 22:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋