My girlfriend has had a friend longer than I have known her, about 3 months longer. He is her classmate and is constantly pestering her for her notes and answers because he misses class or refuses to do the work. It gets annoying and wish I could smack some sense into the guy. He was once caught for cheating in class, along with a few of his buddies, and I have lost any sense of decency for him ever since. My girlfriend has told me she doesn't like him, but lies about it because I guess she knows that I hate him. When I'm not around she talks to him.
I don't believe I'm jealous about the guy. She has a couple of girl and guy friends that I really enjoy hanging out with, but this guy is the worst. I would rather she tutor the guy instead of give him her notes and answers. It seems dishonorable because I hated cheating or getting help from others. Also it bothers me because I've sacrificed a lot of time tutoring her in the same classes she takes with him.
2006-12-05 22:28:07 · 10 answers · asked by josephy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Have you expressed your feelings to her, besides telling her you do not like this guy? This is her friend and you have to respect that, maybe there is more to the picture then you know. Maybe he is not just a slacker. I knew this guy that always came late to class, never had his work done, was constantly borrowing notes and falling asleep in class. As time passed I found out that he was going through a really rough time. His mother was very ill and his father forgot about him because of what he was going through with the eventual loss of his wife. Now maybe you need to get a clear picture of the situation and if it turns out he is just a slacker then you have a right to not enjoy his company but what knowledge you pass to your gf is hers to pass to whom ever she wants and think of it this way you did not just help her you are helping others through her that should be a rewarding feeling for you. The harder you push for her to stay away from him them more she will be with him so back off and relax. If he is as bad as you think she will eventually see it and move on. I hope that helps a little. Best of luck.
2006-12-05 22:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I don't care how you deny it, you are jealous. Even if it is just jealous of her giving away all that work you put into her for this class.
I would say you have two options, get used to it, or get a new girl. You could always try to find out why she helps him, but unless there is something really bad in her past that he is blackmailing her for I can't see it being any reason other than he is her friend. Once you realize that, your options are limited if you want to be seen as the 'good guy' in this situation.
Sorry, it sucks but there ya go.
2006-12-06 06:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just leave it. It's a really horrible situation but if I were you I'd just swallow it. Don't meddle in someone else's business. The guy will eventually pay for what he's doing when he applies for further education or when he's caught cheating again. It doesn't do your personality any good if you can't even leave this alone especially if you're a guy. Big-hearted guys are more attractive and liked. This is your girlfriend's friend and just let them be.
2006-12-06 06:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
darn if you do, darn if you don't. Do what is right for you. tell her how it is. If she is going to allow him to cheat from her, when its your time that was used for her and she has no real value in that, then no more tutoring. She , you and all the others have had to earn their grades and that is how it will be for him.
try a test, place a bet. if she stops for 2 weeks from allowing him to cheat off of her, and he doesn't just go to the next person and changes his interactions with her. then you will go on tutoring. if he does , then she will know he was using her.
or Just do whats best, tell her how you feel and let her make her own choices and see where that leaves you. maybe you aren't the friend you thought you were to her.
2006-12-06 06:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that you should always clear every thing in your life.this is a problem which is not clear for you.talk to her honestly and be sure about her love to you.if not, then leave her.
It is not good to think about sb who doesn't think about you.
2006-12-06 06:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Elham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel, and tell her straight to stop helping him and to let him help himself its the only way of learning.
2006-12-06 06:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard for women to say no to people, were givers. hes annoying as all hell, but she'll distance herself from him in time, dont worry. for now youll have to take it, but she will become less available to him and less available to exploit. you just have to sit tight. she can take care of herself.
2006-12-06 06:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her frankly u dont like her friend and ask her to ditch that guy since she dont like him too. dont just because of that useless guy u break up with her.. its not worth it.
2006-12-06 06:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by jzen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her how you feel you spend your time help her just so she can help him and look smart
2006-12-06 06:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by allison b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T BELIEVE IN CHEATING EITHER. TO HELP A CHEATER CHEAT IS TANTAMOUNT TO CHEATING. FORGET HER.
2006-12-06 06:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋