hi,my boyfriend is a 27 year old virgin,he can get a hardon but before iv even touched him,he cums,and cant get a hardon again for the rest of the night.this is making sex impossible for us.at first i thought it was nerves (with him bein a virgin and not having a clue what to do) but now im not sure if its a medical problem or something,we have been trying for 5 months and we are getting nowhere.he says his relaxed but then he gets frustrated when its all over.plus he dont have much of a sex drive,can any one explain this to me?
2006-12-05 22:17:14 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
to be honest I'm a bloke and have four children and have been having sex for the last 15 years and sometimes i come fast other times i can go on all night he just need to relax masturbation will never be the same as sex with a partner after all it is just his body doing what it was designed to do if could not come at all then i would be really worried all these blokes that say i can go all night if i want to is crap they have probably had a **** a few hours before having sex that's why they last, tell him not to worry it all comes with practise
2006-12-07 07:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by stuart t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a man like this. it is simply fixed ---but you both have to relax avout it first. The first few times it is all about being over eager and over excited. after that the worry sets in that is is going to happen again and thats when it becomes a bit of a problem
If he is embarrassed by it it will get worse. The thing to do ( and it is a bit more tricky) is to take t he pressure off and I mean really off and try again . You must somehow reassure him that it really does not matter that there is always the next time and then do it again
the ones who are quick to. come usually can follow on quite quickly. So just do it . again and again and again
and laugh about it you HAVE to keep it light. or he will just freeze up..you need to spend a lot of time having sex show him how to give you an orgasm and t hen let him do his thing
once he knows t hat you are satisfied he stops being worried about it It will pass.
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2014-09-29 08:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is more of mental than pysical,
he is not getting erection is one thing and is unable to hold is other,
the former one needs medical treatment whereas the later doesnt.
you've not mentioned that how u guyz satisfy urself,
does he musterbate? do u help him? and is he very excited about ur private parts?
1. if he musterbates everything is normal.
2. if u help him nothing can be better than that, just do one thing,
the time he goes up, ask him to insert in u, and the position will be he lying down and u above him,
which helps him to locate ur ***** easily and quick penetration.
3.ask him to musterbate u, and u act as the actors used to do in porn movies,
yes you both watch porn movies and develop desire for sex in him, make him confuse that u dont want sex right now (ofcourse not bcoz of his inability bt "2day u r not in mood").
i said confuse - keep doing act that u want bt nt expressing, since guys have the tendency of "more u say no" more the move they tried to make...
here if u could try to become erotic will be fine
bcoz our first target is to give him the taste of heaven, which so far he has not felt.
give him oral sex and discuss everything - his likes and dislikes,
good mood before sex is the key of everything,
so he and u should be stress free.
shave ur clit and shave his as well..
ask him to watch porn movie alone..
and tell him what drives u crazy as well..
its really nice that u r still with him, which is certainly rare in itself
u r a good gf
all the best
2006-12-05 22:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by ashu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always try the -take -advantage- of --the -morning- erection- method. He will still be sleeping of course but there are worse ways to wake up.
You should also have him see an MD and get checked for low testosterone levels. A healthy 27 year old should have a good if not great sex drive.
The fact that he is a 27 year old virgin [ to me anyway] implies some real serious psychological issues, or he could just be gay.
good luck
2006-12-05 22:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason he has no sex drive is because he doesn’t know what he is missing, once he gets a taste his sex drive will improve,
The best thing for premature ejaculation - (which is what this is) is to take off the pressure!
He is clearly worked up by the idea of sex and gets so excited it takes over and he cums!
If you both just allow yourselves to be naked and have some gentle massage WITHOUT any intention to have sex, do this for a few times and then 1 stage is over - you'll be used to being naked and intimate together WITHOUT any pressure, then try some light foreplay like a hand job or oral etc!
The key is to take 1 step at a time !
I am the son of a sex therapist
2006-12-05 22:25:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I can only say that it would be a good idea for you to seek some counseling. Perhaps something has happened to you mentally. Perhaps you are under stress. Perhaps you have a chemical or hormonal imbalance. It would be good to talk to your doctor first, but it's possible that a good psychologist could help you as well. I really wish you the best!
2016-05-22 23:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble is he's in a psychological vicious circle now and its gonna be hard to get out of it, its obviously a problem that needs sorting or its gonna drive you both apart, it doesn't help being a virgin at that age because he hasn't learnt how to control himself, good luck
2006-12-05 22:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by Dazman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What helped me, was a circumscision (low&tight) with complete removal of the frenulum. This took away a lot of sexual feeling, and gave much more time before ***. (PS Good Luck)
2006-12-06 01:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Armand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋