for 23yrs, ive been hetero, ever got married to a girl, and have 2 beautiful children with her. almost a full year ago, i came out after giving up my struggle with my attraction for men. now that ive made this huge life altering leap, i find myself attracted to woman almost more now than before. i can still perform with both sex's though. what the H#$L is wrong with me? some days, this though is far too much to handle.
2006-12-05 20:55:57 · 11 answers · asked by boost_junkie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Embrace bisexuality if you have attractions to both men and women.It may not be easy at first but when you accept yourself for who you are then it won't be so hard to handle.Personally, I have never understood bisexuality.I have been gay all my life and never was with a woman.But I also know that my happiness is my own.So your happiness needs to be your own.No matter who you love or how you love.As long as nobody gets hurt and you are only with consenting adults, I suggest exploring yourself and what makes you happy.
2006-12-05 21:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation I am attracted to both men and women equally.
Bisexual people have a harder time not an easier tiem as you have just discovered.
You can not deny either sides of your nature or you will be miserable. just try to find other bisexuals to have relationships with and dont try to be monogamous. monosexuals will not understand but bisexuals will have an easier time of it.
I think the perfect arrangement for a bisexual is three other bisexuals. That way the women can have a woman and the men can have a man and each can have the oposite sex when ever they want it. But this is a very hard arrangement to set up.
2006-12-06 06:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not been heterosexual for 23years. You have been a closeted bisexual. I assume you are no longer married, and therefore are able to live your life as you please. There is nothing wrong with you, you are simply attracted to both genders, probably in very different ways, but with the same sexual response.
Oh and if you are cheating on your wife, don't put her in risk of catching anything from you. Either be honest with her, or stop having sexual relations with her unless you are practicing safe sex and are being regularly tested. And if you ARE cheating on her, get yourself into counseling. Your sexual orientation is not the issue here, its why you are cheating on your wife.
2006-12-06 09:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are really confused with all that is going on in your life.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you!! Just explore your sexuality more and don't be afraid to accept your true feelings. It is OK to like both men and women. I think that you had your bisexual feelings oppressed for so long that you just exploded and crossed completely over to the other "side of the fence". One's sexuality is a really personal thing that at times can be confusing, especially when you are dealing with gay or bisexual feelings that tend to cause a lot of guilt and can be hard to accept.
2006-12-06 09:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by markalan1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, I'm hetero, but I'd say you're a luck dude to be bi and be able to have fun with folks of both sexes... not to mention that men are 10x hornier than women so if you're bi you can find something fun every damn night of the week if you want.
2006-12-06 05:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best advice anyone can give you is to get into councilling. I'm sure its a deep subject that needs to be fully explored before you find a reason.
But based solely on the information you have given, its possible you may be bisexual and just fluxuate as your needs change.
2006-12-06 05:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by John Smith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever consider the fact that maybe you're Bi-sexual? Its not the sex one is attracted to but the person. Love is love doesn't matter the body it comes in. Good luck! Life is short, enjoy it!
nick
2006-12-06 18:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by nicholas b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, stop trying to fit into those narrow definitions the world likes to box us in. many people are attracted to both sexes and there's nothing unusual or wrong about that. i would suggest you need to take a break from dating and concentrate on you, learn to love yourself unconditionally, until you do that you can't truly love another anyway........good luck!
2006-12-06 05:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know this girl who is married, works with computers, goes to church and even preaches. she does not like men very much in general even though she is married with one. they fight all the time but he doesn't know she is a lesbian. i've known her all my life. i am angry that she is living this lie because its not fair to her husband but she made her choice. this is what she wanted in her life.
i am myself straight and happily married but only wanted to share this.
2006-12-06 05:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
You can go back to your wife and kids, as you have discovered this side now.
2006-12-06 05:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 7⤋