I'm a English woman living abroad with children (in EU), I realise I've been depressed and been put down by abusive comments etc. by my husband. It's not so easy to get work to support myself here, husband won't consent to a divorce or let children leave with me. I want to come back to UK but I don't think I'd be entitled to housing or benefits as I've been out of the country so long.
2006-12-05 20:21:48 · 13 answers · asked by arty_green_lady 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got advice from Shelter, it says if you've been out of the country for 10 years or more you're not entitled to housing.
I will contact the local council and see what they say, thanks for your answers.
2006-12-05 20:44:51 · update #1
firstly, don't think....know...ask around...i am sure there are plenty of people ready to help you leave if you really need to...
don't stay in an abusive and clearly miserable marriage...go be happy
Good Luck
2006-12-05 20:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by admiralawesome2006 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
been in this situation and it's not easy I know. But on the plus side if you were actually born here - you're still entitled to everything you were before you left. Just find a way of getting back and somewhere to live and you can start claiming stuff immediately. It's easier if you've got children.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-05 20:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by kimbridge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the kids - most important and get your family/friends to help you come back to your home town. I am sure as a citizen you are entitled to something. My sister is a English citizen she an expatriot of Australia and yet she has rights and I am sure you do too. Please dont stick around a home with an abusive man. Take your kids your belongings whatever money you have on hand if its making you unhappy and go back home. Good luck and god bless
2006-12-05 20:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and find out everything that can help you first
give your self a date to leave and work towards that ....research every detail before you do anything
you dont deserve to be treated like that
i was married for 9 yr i had two children but if it wasnt for my best friend then i would probably still be married . she was my rock ...i am 100 times happier now than i ever was ...i didnt think i could manage on my own but i can and i love it
yes there is going to be some really bad times but you have to remember that you can do it
good luck xx
2006-12-06 02:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact a member of your family and try get the money to get back to UK with your kids, explain to them what's happening, i cannot see them letting you down, they will want the best for you...do this secretly so he does not find out...there are places here that will help you...as soon as you land back in UK then call someone to come get you....you will get help...do not stay in that relationship...it's not healthy...you will get housed and you will get benefits...if you are a British citizen then you are entitled
2006-12-05 23:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal abuse and psychological abuse are already occurring, and you're unaware of the data in case you do not have self assurance that as quickly as he strangles you it quite isn't any longer already actual abuse. The absue which you're already receiving can erupt into finished actual abuse on the blink of an eye fixed. that could answer your question..... verbal abuse can turn completely actual in an instantaneous. you are the single that desires to be terrified, no longer your sister. you're in threat every day of the week. hear, I communicate from experience. My verbally, mentally abusive ex snapped one evening and that i promise you, you do no longer choose to undergo the thrashing I won. As he punched me persistently in the face and head on an identical time as preserving me around the neck together with his different arm, i could no longer help yet think of "no, this could't be occurring as a results of fact i quite believed he will possibly in no way get actual as my family instructed me he might". What you're experiencing are warning indicators and in case you do no longer heed them you're heading into risky territory. God be with you and save you risk-free, yet think of approximately how your existence is now. Get out on an identical time as you may and don't look returned. what's there to look returned to besides.... extra verbal positioned downs, call calling and putting his palms on you and strangling. he's out of control and you may look for help, in case you do not have self assurance me then look for professional help.
2016-10-17 21:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never know until you try hunni , done stay their in fear of what you don't know everything works out and the council in your home area will not see you without some sort of care put in place for you, it may not be the best in the world but it will give you a start,do you have any family that could help you with accommodation at least that would be a start for you.xx
2006-12-06 00:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your council does have a duty to house you and ur children, there are also options of renting and claiming housing benefit. you can go to refuge while you r waiting to be housed
U have alot of options, and if u know people over here then they can start setting things up before u get here.
I work in housing so if u need any more info, u can email me x
2006-12-05 22:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never hurts to check things out. I don't know about in the UK, but there are places that will help you get set up in a house of your own. i understand about him not consenting to you leaving with the children. but if he's threatening you about it, seek professional help. also, talk to a lawyer. i feel the same way sometimes.
2006-12-05 20:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by aprillindee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the British consulate in the country you are in and get some information... Also contact the Benefits Agency about help... If you don't ask, you'll never know...
2006-12-05 20:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you forces?-i am, also living in eu been here for 10 years. there are people here that can help you and they will help you fill out forms for housing benefits etc they will even re-home you tomorrow if you really wanted to go, talk to your UWO
2006-12-05 20:50:12 · answer #11 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋