what would you do with your time?
other than getting drunk
2006-12-05 19:53:58 · 26 answers · asked by ellen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be happy find a new one
2006-12-05 19:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well drunk may have its pro's - even if just once - can't say I've ever been drunk so there's a good reason to try! lol...
Seriously though, the only way to cope is to be kind to yourself and know that there's a mourning period that's going to hurt like nothing else on earth - so don't repress it. Cry your heart out - beat the floor with your fists as you cry and beg God for relief. It will come, I promise, even if it takes a long time.
Then Read - read inspirational stuff. If you are the type - write. I thought my love was going to leave and I sat at the ocean and wrote - a million pages... just pouring out what I thought, what I thought he thought, what I thought I didn't know... oh my... everything pathetic or not - just to GET IT OUT OF THE SYSTEM. Don't dwell on good memories, rather focus your time on other activities.
If reading and writing are not for you - watch videos -feel good stuff, WALK, walk, walk... it off. You'll get a fab body in the process too, and you'll be channelling all those emotions. It may be all you can do to drag your sorry b-hind outside, but do it - cry as you go, who cares, just keep going.
And breathe - one moment at a time. Sometimes all you can do is walk one breath at a time, when the pain is so much that your chest implodes, your eyes are sandy from too much crying and too little sleep..
And sleep.... doesn't matter if you don't feel like you've slept - just sleep when you can. Eat - make sure you do that. You must feed your body with strength to get through this, even though it's the last thing you want to do. If you really can't stomach anything, drink juices, eat salads and fruit, but keep your energy up - it WILL help.
And tomorrow will come...
then the next day....
then the next...
just keep breathing, just keep walking, just keep reaching out to others who can help and listen and just keep healing. It will happen.
2006-12-05 20:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not an expert nor claim any specialty on this subject. Perhaps it is best to look upon this as an opportunity to begin anew. This a great time to dig out your dream book, and remember all the dreams, hopes and aspirations you had when you were younger. If you can't remember or do not have any, GET some or at least one, and go after it or them. Live life, or it will be gone or over before you know it. Take a great vacation to some place you have been before, or even one you have not. A cruise, a day trip, train ride, plane jaunt, or whatever your budget allows. Just go forward. Improve you, and you will be happier. I truly believe this is a way to cope.
Peace
The Gent
2006-12-05 20:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting drunk is not the right thing at the first time.Though alot of depression follows after this but the only trick many people lack is to get back to yourself.Just go out there,you will again find another patner.The act of your partner to leave you is not end of life.Take heart.
2006-12-05 20:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this;
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
Move on. Your not alone in this world.
*Never be sad for what is over, just be glad it was once yours".
Cheer up sweety! Dringking too much wont help u. Call a friend or a family. Get busy. If no one there 4 u,,... IM me., im a good listener.
2006-12-05 20:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by anne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my partner left me I would be right up sh it creek without a paddle. He is the bread winner and I am only allowed to stay in Switzerland as long as he pays my living expenses. I'd spend my time looking for a replacement, sounds hard I know, but if I didn't I'd be homeless as well as loveless.
2006-12-05 20:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner is deceased. I try to help others, take care of myself and my home, watch some TV, go to church, and be respectful of my neighbors. If I had more time, I would sew, take classes at church or the community center. There is lots to do. If that isn't possible for you, get a volunteer job. Some jobs look very interesting. Look into your community services for something you would consider interesting.
2006-12-05 19:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by desertflower 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Carry on as I am. Never put all ur eggs in one basket.
I have friends, family, hobbies, work and children, I'm a great believer in having all areas of life covered so that if one goes wrong u have back up from other areas.
2006-12-05 22:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some good replies from Sugar, Dianne and others. As many have said, the only answer is to carry on..... preferably avoiding drinks and other addictions, until, one day, surprise, you feel okish, and then ok and one day happy again!
2006-12-06 01:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time with friends, take up extra activities and even get someone new. The more 'occupied' you are, the less you will be thinking about your Ex.
2006-12-05 19:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by KnOwLeDgE_iS_PoWeR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting drunk is not the amswer cause when you wake up and the hang over is gone what do you have? going out with friends, try being just yourself again, be happy with what you have weather then what you don't have or have lost.
2006-12-05 19:57:50 · answer #11 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋