Is it cause ive gained weight and its all me or what I love him with all my heart but ,I have alot of stress and feel unappreciated sometimes and then he whines about never getting any,that includes oral nothing against him I just dont wanna,help!!!!!!
2006-12-05 18:57:51 · 11 answers · asked by turnpage692002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't know your age but it doesnt matter- you were or are on birth control at one time- any change in your sexual behaviour a red light should go on in your head and you MUST think of a hormonal imbalance- it causes missed periods, and all kinds of weight gain- go get checked at your gyno- have him do blood tests and make sure he tests your progesterone levels especially because of the weight gain. You feel insecure about how you look because of the weight gain- truly common and understanding - it doesnt matter to him, but to you, so be there for him- sexually that is, it cant do any harm, and whatever experimentations he wants and you dont- just say no and offer the usual menu that you are willing to perform and dont forget- you can fake it so he doesnt have to know you are still having a problem but help him out-- he's used to you being there - just like we are used to our doggies and cats given us love---- see your gyno and get checked out- the weight gain and lack of sex drive is a hormonal imbalance and a quick check up can get you back on track---- best of luck to you and yours.
2006-12-05 19:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel the exact same way. Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over two years and we used to have it at least twice a day. But, lately, I haven't really wanted it. He keeps complaining too. I think it is because I have gained a little weight and I feel like he won't find me attractive anymore. That, and I feel like that is all he wants. Is that how you feel? Well, my advice is to work out and get in shape like you used to look. That's what I'm trying to do. And just talk to him. Make sure that you let him know that you don't feel appreciated. He should understand. Express how you feel. If you feel better and attractive, you might be in the mood more often. Good luck!
2006-12-06 03:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the same for everyone but often sex is the barometer of a relationship - sure you have a lot more at first but if it stops then there are probably some deeper problems you need to look at.
For guys it's very difficult getting none - they can end up going where they can get some and that makes things worse for a relationship.
2006-12-06 03:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by lozatron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we grow older we change physically,mentally and emotionally this are stages in life that we must pass through so to feel unappreciated start by loving yourself and for stress tell him how you feel if you bundle ever thing inside he will not know how you feel and it will give you diseases that are unpronounceable for whining its bcoz you are not opening up to him talk to him any time any day
2006-12-06 03:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by alfa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't care about ur weight gain b/c he is still asking... if he didn't want sex he wouldnt ask you for it. Take care of your man before someone else does. Make sure he understands your needs during sex that way you two can both be happy: He gets sex, and you get stress relief! A win-win situation.
2006-12-06 03:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being supper stressed and not feelin wanted or attractive can have a lot to do with it. Maybe its because you have been with him for a few years now and things tend to slow down after a while......
2006-12-06 03:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to help you with your weight problem if that is what is stressing you out. Your probably not all that overweight N-E Ways
2006-12-06 03:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by *ACDC* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact--dysfunctional relationships last about 2 years, then split. Good luck.
2006-12-06 03:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whaday you want help with? you gotta unearth the causes of the stress and then go from there. talk to a therapist. go to a couples therapist together. gdluck
2006-12-06 02:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Wyatt B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the way my old lady is now. i say find you a new man or he'll find him a new woman
2006-12-06 03:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by flylow256 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋