How can I stop being insecure? It's kind of causing me to be jealous and paranoid. There is a girl I like and can't find the guts to ask her out let alone talk to her. Whenever I see her with another guy even though she isn't dating anyone, I get jealous and don't want her next to or talking to other guys. I also think that something is going on. I wanna change but don't know how.
2006-12-05 18:54:14 · 6 answers · asked by kirr45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have a problem with the whole loving everything about me. There are several girls that like me but I think I'm ugly. I got a big nose and other things I don't like about myself.
2006-12-05 18:59:55 · update #1
You make it sound like I can't control myself. I can control myself but just want to know how to get rid of these feelings of helplessness
2006-12-05 19:01:16 · update #2
It's good you recognize something isnt right or you will end up going thru life sabotaging all your relationships. I dont think you can change this on your own. You can try looking for self help books on dealing with jealous feelings but if thet doesnt help you might need counseling. When you like a girl you have no right to stop her from talking to other people. If you dont get a handle on this they will all eventually leave you for making them a prisoner.
2006-12-05 18:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are insecure even though you don't even know it because they play it off we all have something wrong with us . everyone has something they don't like about themselves but just think of those kids and adults that don't have legs, can't see , that have a lot of disabilities and then look at yourself and look at what you are complaining about you Will realize it is something small. i give you a lot of respect on admitting this is a problem and you want to stop it . realize this girl is not yours and you don't even know if she wants you but if she doesn't oh well their is always someone else that does only thing I'm scared for you if you ask her out and she doesn't like you will you be able to handle it but i what say get some confidence first then approach her . and stop putting your self down it seems like you are your worse critic ask god to take those negative thoughts from you but believe me your not alone i get like that too
2006-12-06 03:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by ebeyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a lady and been in a relationship, I can't stand that jealousness. We also need time to be with friends and it can't happen to be female friends only. Please try to change your attitude coz it wont help in any way but you'll end up being more frustated all time. Learn to trust your patner thats wen you get one. But anyway I wish you luck to have courage to tell her your feelings.
2006-12-06 03:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by pinkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you have no rite to be jealous because you don't even have a relationship with her. You said yourself that she is just friends with them. You should go to counseling because you are possessive and obsessive. Reread what you wrote, that is scary!
2006-12-06 03:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a pill you can take. if that doesnt work tell her how you fell like
2006-12-06 02:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by alfa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start by loving everything about you
2006-12-06 02:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋