Any hotline for family advice. I do not know who to talk to. I am confused.. I want to divorce withmy hubby but no courage to do so as I had 2 kids .worry about financial stability. My hubby had a woman n a son outside .He hopes that I,he and she can live in harmony. What is this world. I had tried to accept but in the end i can't face the fact at all.I really depressed.He had said both of us are good he do not know how to choose between us...Please advise!!!
2006-12-05 18:53:23 · 10 answers · asked by sun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sad to hear about this, your hubby is trying to have the best of 2 woman company.
do you have today strait times?
There is a article of the foreign worker who die in mrt, they include the tel no of relevant organisation to call if one is depressed.
in my opinion, if you do not love him anymore..best you divorce with him as you can sue him for adultry.. since he had another woman and moreover a kid also..
you will get your allowance from him should you get your 2 kids with you...
not sure how old are you.. i presume you not working...that is why you worry over $$?
Pls don't let this be the reason of you staying with your hubby coz you do not have the means..
We ladies in singapore, need to be brave in such matters, else who knows your hubby might want wife no 3
if you are working, maybe you should not be worrying over $$..
2006-12-05 19:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by dior babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a selfish bastard, how can he still have the cheek to suggest three of you live in harmony? You should leave him without any hesitation. As he had committed adultary, which you may bring up for divorce. No sure whether you are in Singapore, if so, under Woman Charter, he have to compensate you, provide the maintenance for your kids and you after divorce. You may then start to look for a job outside, so financial stability is not a impossible mission. If you need further help, you may check out: http://www.helpfsc.org.sg/
2006-12-06 03:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically I think you have the answer to your problem except the fact that you may face diffculties if you leave your husband. Did you think of staying with your parents while you start looking for a job. You really have to face then fact, sometimes you have to take the initative and not let your husband made the decision. Think over carefully what is the best way out for you and your kids before you made the decision
2006-12-06 06:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still with this piece of **** then you definitely have some low self esteem. I honestly feel sorry for you, but using money as a cop out is totally unacceptable. Your dignity is worth far more than what he can give you and considering you have two children there is such thing as child support.You need to pick yourself up out of this hellish nightmare you are in and seek some help for yourself. Ask yourself this, What kind of respect will my children have for me if I allow another woman and her child to move into MY home? I think if you tried hard enough you would realize you are much bigger and better than this. He shouldn't even have another choice but you. Kick his sorry *** to the curb you will get over this I promise.
2006-12-06 03:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by cargirldawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the men are selfish bastards! They always want the best of both world, but never spare a thought for others. If you are the one who betray him, he will think that you are unforgiven and won't be able to accept it. They will never know how to treasure you until they lose you. Sigh..... But everything are too late by then. Bastards! Bastards! Bastards!
2006-12-06 10:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants the best of both worlds. It obviously is not working for you. Leave him, get child support, alimony and state aid if necessary. You can survive.
2006-12-06 08:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are getting crapped on in a BIG way. You have somehow taught him in the past that he can do this to you. The only thing to do now is teach him otherwise, and teach it to yourself too!
2006-12-06 02:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by robet_vegas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman woman woman... what have you done to yourself.... have some dignity.... pick-up the pieces... better yet, leave the pieces.....and run as fast as you can... away from that Bastard!.... it will get better
2006-12-06 02:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Morena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DOnt divorce
2006-12-06 02:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kostya G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him...
2006-12-06 04:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋