, I dont have any job skills, dont work,and totally depend on a money controlling monster.
He wont help me with my student loans, like he said would when I was pregnant, hates the idea of working, wont pay for daycare, I have no friends anymore,he wont get me a car so I can get out, and he always forgets what I say.
Whenever I say I want to leave he threatens me with ur child by saying get out of his house (he owns it) and sign our son over.
I feel trapped, how am I suppose to get a job if I cant get daycare to look after him? My common law husband works mostly out of town as well.
I am depressed, I know why and I cant do nything about it.
I cant believe this is my life, this is not what i ever thought it would be.
I am such a loser.
2006-12-05 18:35:02 · 11 answers · asked by stayathomemomnightmare 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like mental and verbal abuse to me. doesn't sound like you or your son need to be there. Check your area for abuse shelters or councilors about how to get on with your life not his.
2006-12-05 18:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by sthrnduff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheer up!!! There is always light at the end of the tunnel.... first of all you have the right to stay at the house until you can find a job and a place .. He can't throw you out just like that, you have rights..... Now your child is not property you can sign over as if he/she was a car.... the court system won't allow that...
Now finding a job, you may have to ask old friends and family to help you out... remember that true friends will side by you in your time of need no matter how often you keep in touch... Immediate family will always help you as long as you reach out to them and show you want your life to change....
and remember you are only 26 you have a life ahead of you......
bad choices are always good because they will make you stronger as you learn to over come them....
2006-12-06 02:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by wtf!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all....common law marriage is a bunch of crap. You are either married or you are not. He didn't marry you. LUCKY you!!!
Consider asking for help from family so you can get a job. Stash your money and get out of there. Go to your church for help.
He is controlling you for two reasons, he knows he is an idiot and you will leave, and you let him.
You CAN do something about it. Don't put up with it. Get a job and get out. There will be angels sent to your path to help you get out of there. You have to take the first step.
Of course you are depressed, I'm depressed thinking about it.
There are people who can and will help you... but you gotta make the first step. And by all means Pray and ask the Lord to help you.
2006-12-06 02:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, excuse me miss, but you obviously have access to a computer. Hello! There are tons of information out there. Research and get the information you need. There are sites for women in your position that offer help.
Domestic abuse also includes verbal abuse, controlling, financial restraints etc. At this point YOU need to take that second step. Consider your posting the first step. You can soon be enrolled in on-line courses and get the education you need right under his nose.
Good luck and touch bases and let us know your progress.
2006-12-06 03:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Belize69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact your police department (not 911) and ask for the local victims of domestic violence number.
The people there will help you and your child get out of the house, find you a home and a job, and keep that evil monster away from you.
Do it now. Not only your sanity is at stake, but your safety and your child's.
Good luck and blessed be.
2006-12-06 03:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
common-law=marriage after 6 mths where im from so you should be entitled to something. plus he supports you so he could be told he has to continue supporting you if you left. i am 40 and my life has changed so much since i was 26 i cant even begin .decide what you want and take action. a judge is not going to make you sign over your child-you are the main care-giver. you are not a loser, you recognize that something needs to change and you are going to find the strength and courage to do it. you go girl!
2006-12-06 02:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by earthgirl766 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your parents and get your life back in order. No one can take your son away from you ...however you may have to share the custody. You are young and have the whole life ahead of you ....still. You just need a little help...thats all.
2006-12-06 02:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by sdbrian92108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there.... call parents, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, social services, someone will help you, but you have to make the first step...You are only a loser as long as you allow HIM to win
2006-12-06 03:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to get a backbone , then when he is out of town file for a divorce or legal separation and it sounds like you are going to need a restraining order... Most of all get a LAWYER.They will advise you of your rights as far as the child goes the court will tend to side with you unless they find you unfit
2006-12-06 02:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a loser. Stop complaining, make a plan, and stick with it. Anyone is capable of doing anything, if they want it bad enough!
2006-12-06 02:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋