Can someone give some information about head injures, if someone could come out of it if they have a traumatic head injury? Yesterday on his way home from work my dad was in a car accident. He's in critical condition with head and internal injuries. A truck slid into his car on the ice head on.The doctors said that hes not brain dead but he still will not wake up. I've been crying all day. Im so scared, I made myself sick from crying and being scared. I can't go see my dad. My mom and even the doctors told me I have to go see him but I can't make myself do it. To make it worse there are things I need to tell him. I can't remember the last time I said I loved him or hugged him. He tells me he loves me every day and tries to make me hug him but I always push him away. I was talking to one of his nurses and she told me that touch is very important. But I can't make myself do it. Maybe Im scared he'll hear me or feel me. I dont know it just freaks me out!!! Could someone PLEASE reply!Thx!
2006-12-05 18:26:23 · 14 answers · asked by kate 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Injuries
This morning I went in to see him, and I held his hand. I coulnd't bring myself to anything for a long time but i finally said "I LOVE YOU" and I begged him to come back to me. And I kissed his cheek and I kept holding his hand for a sign and after I said I LOVE YOU for about the 3rd time I could feel his hand move and it wasn't just a little twitch but it felt like he SQUEEZED my hand. I was so excited that I ran and got my mom. My mom has been so upset and scared and crying and she was so excited too. The doctors told us just a little while ago that his brained is swelled, and it will take awhile for it to go down. I was really freaked out because it really doesn't look my dad laying there. They can't tell about any permanent damages yet. Im so excited! Thanks everyone for the advice and kind words..i will keep everyione posted.
2006-12-06 04:20:39 · update #1
Ur main emotion here is guilt. It's understandable but u hv to put that aside for the sake of ur dad. It's very true that touch, sound and even smells r important for ur dad rt now. Ur voice could really reach him rt now. If u think u hv guilt now, think if the worse happens n u don't get the chance to say goodbye. We r stronger than we think but u hv to make a move, hv someone help u, just say I'm ready to go n get to the hospital, take as long as u hv to in order to actually go in, take it a step at a time. Ur dad needs u! make up for the times u pushed him away. It's very scary to see a parent so sick, it's like we trade places n they r the weaker n vulnerable ones. that's hard to take bcuz we always want our parents protection even if we dont realize it. U CAN get thru this! I am so sorry this has happened to u, I pray he will b ok.
Good luck!
2006-12-05 18:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey there, im sorry to hear what happened. You didn't give much detail on your dad's condition bu t i understand that you may be a little distraught. I've worked with a few TBI's (traumatic brain injury) in hospital as a physical therapist student. There are varying degrees of severity but taking that your dad has still not woken up his condition does sound a bit severe. The may concern for him will be which part of his brain was injured cos each part can lead to very different symptoms and problems for example if its a frontal lobe lesion then he'll most probably have behavoural problems and amnesia etc. Touch is very important and although he get some of this from the medical team (mostly the physical therapists) he still needs the emotional touch and support from his loved ones. It is a difficult thing to deal with and i hope you find the strength to visit your dad and give him as much support as you can - you might regret it if you don't!
Good luck! i hope everything turns out ok!
2006-12-05 18:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by tulip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common man get a grip! If you were the one in the hospital your dad would be there for you! Go see him ... go and talk to him and hold his hand! It has been proven fact that if someone is in a comma that they still can hear you although they can't talk some have tears coming from their eyes and some will squeeze your hand a little bit! Your love for him maybe enough to save him ... to pull him back to this side ...... he needs you go to him! Let him know you love him ... he is going to hear you. Tell him you wished he would just wake up and tell him you are scared! The hospitals have a chappel in them too ... go there and pray for him too! If he passes and you did not go see and talk to him you are going to be on the biggest guilt trip of your life! How will you ever live with that!!!!! Do everything you can now before it is too late and you question yourself about what you could of done! I am not sugar coating anything .... you need to snap out of it! It is time you were there for your Dad ... go to him .... common it is what love is all about!
2006-12-05 18:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I am so to hear about your daddy!!! You need to get over your fear sweetie...Now is the best time to go see and tell you father how much you love him and hug him and need him! Brain injuries are weird you can go from unstable to stable it may take a lot of time. Him not being brain dead is a good sign of recovery, it just takes time. Your dad really needs you like no other. He needs to hear you are there with him you simply not being there could make it worst (not to scare you) The nurse is so so right being there touching and hugging him and telling him you love him is a major step that can help him improve! I wish you the best of luck keep me up 2 date!!! GO SEE YOUR DAD...IT MAYBE YOUR LAST TIME SEEING HIM (GOD FORBID...I THINK HE IS GOING TO MAKE IT) BUT INCASE HE DONT AT LEAST YOU GOT TO SAY GOOD-BYE AND YOU LOVE HIM!!!!
AGAIN KEEP ME UP 2 DATE! Dont be scared sweetie...its only your daddy if anything you touch and sound is what he wants! I know I keep saying it but it is so so important!
2006-12-05 18:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Caleema L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people can completely recover from head injuries..it depends on alot of things including the type of injury and the area of the brain affected.
The problem with head injuries is that you can never tell how much a person will recover....the only thing you can do is wait it out...only time will tell.
It is very important for you to talk to your dad while he is in this state of coma. People who have been unconcious have reported that they can hear things and are sometimes aware of whats going on around them even though they cannot communicate.
Maybe this tragedy will be a blessing in disguise for you and your father and bring you closer together.
Take care of yourself.....
2006-12-05 18:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by SoCal NP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are afraid of losing him. I am sure that inside where his heart is he doesn't want to leave you either. You can go in sit on the chair shut your eyes and just hold his hand. You don't even have to talk to him unless your heart and soul move you too. Even if he is not conscious he will know you were there for them. It's important you do this. Really important.
2006-12-05 18:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human body is remarkable in its healing ability. It may be that your father's brain and body just needs time to heal itself and rest, so don't be so scared. Many, many teenagers act this way toward their parents... you aren't the only one. Your dad knows you love him even though you don't show it. Go see him and let him know you're in the room. It might help his recovery to know you're there. We can all benefit from your experience if something like that should happen to someone we love. Good luck.
2006-12-05 18:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by choir_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. Be brave and strong instead.
He is probably in a comma and will/needs to get out of it. STOP THINKING about your emotions and START FEELING your emotions and go see and talk to him.
He needs it and you deserve a break from feeling guilty either now or later on. This is the least you can do right now.
Imagine being the one who gets him awake and starts talking to you and being normal.
Good luck.
2006-12-05 18:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mark n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a terrible story and I'm sorry it happened to you. Just be brave and go see him. Stop being a coward. It's your father for crying out loud. You never know what kind of impact your presence will have on him.
2006-12-05 18:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by dominique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAVE HIM.I know it is a worse time comes in life(we undergo through real life)6 month ago In India at relvay station arroud me there are I saw just blood,breaked body part.there relatives cying and trying to reliase which is his/hir father,mother,sis,bro.myself I and my family return BACK through a bomb attack.At that time I saw love,relation.JUST I DONT KNOW WHERE IS MY LEFT LEG.MY MOTHER UNABLE TO SPEAK.MY FATHER IS IN THE HOSPITAL IN SERIUS CONDITION.
PLEASE,PLEASE MEET WITH YOUR FATHER IT REALY WORK.PLEASE DONT SAVE YOUR FATHER
2006-12-05 19:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by jan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋