I think this girl may have a a child by me.
I didn't hear about her till she was about 3 years old.
My old girlfriends husband even told me he thought the girl was mine but she told him if he said anything she would take his sons away from him.
I called her up and she screamed at me the girl wasn't mine (this was a few months after talking to he husband)
A couple years passed and my curiosity was getting to me and I went to a lawyer. he said all the laws were on her side and there was little I could do because she listed the other guy as the father.
I was going to have the lawyer try some paperwork but she moved (another state) and messed that all up.
I let it go for a while (lawyers advice to wait till she is 18)
a couple years ago I started to shearch to web trying to find out where she is but after 2-3 years no luck. The other day I hired an investigator to do a "locate"
If I do find out she is mine I only hope to prove that I did try something. She is 16 now.
2006-12-05 18:04:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would have tried harder if I knew for absolute fact that she was mine. I did try to avoid interupting her life while she was 8 to 12 years old just in case and I think she might be old enough now to understand the situation
With what I think there is probably about a 80% to 90% chance that she may be mine but there is still some doubt. All I want to know is if she is in fact mine. If she is then I will try to be a part of her life but I wish I had done more when she was little so it wouldn't have been a big impact on her life if she isn't mine
If she is mine then I should be in her life and she should be in mine
I can look on one bright side. If she is mine then I think I can come up with enough money to pay for a full 4 years a college for her to get a good start on life and would love to do that for her because I never had that chance to go to college like that. My parents told me to go get a job and pay for it and I was never able to comple college while working so much
2006-12-05 18:19:11 · update #1
say brother, all i can say is if she turns out to be yours and you've done/did everything u could, and she knew this, then she hurt u and your daughter by depriving her of her father, and you of your daughter, keep up the good work by not giving up on your search. i really hope things work out for you both.
2006-12-05 18:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by ish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you didnt do it right and you should have gone to another lawyer. You had a right to had a blood test or DNA test done when she was young to disprove/prove if she was yours after the husband told you. The "laws" were NOT on all her side. Your child has every right to know her father for health and background reasons as well as you to know her.
I suggest you continue to find her and try to gete things straightened out for both your sakes. Of course, now that she's older, it will be her choice if she wants more of a relationship with you or not.
2006-12-05 18:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by miladybc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say whether she is your daughter, but it sounds like you tried to find out. I think you did all you could considering the mother wouldnt even talk to you about it. Honestly though, she probably isnt because if she was I think the mom would have tried to get child support from you. If you find them again, try talking to the mom, because after all these years maybe she has chilled out a little and will tell you the truth. dont go straight to the daughter because it will confuse and scare her.
2006-12-05 18:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all i like to say way to go man!!!! here you are wanting to be a Dad to your child when most men are running away from it. tell her the truth that you have always want to be a Dad to her. Dont put her mom down doing so couse she will come back fighting. but she will more then likely thank you in the long run for you be truthfull with her. but i for one belive you have done the right thing. God bless you will keep you in my paryer.
2006-12-05 18:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by sherri b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. she'll make the connection when she's older and ready. i've seen split parent-child relationships and they always end well. it's in our nature to seek out our parents, despite any resentment or other negative emotions.
just sit tight and make sure she can get ahold of you when she tries (listed number in the phone book, etc...)
2006-12-05 18:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you let mom know ya wanna give her a college education, that may put a bright light in your favor.
2006-12-05 18:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can search her name on zabasearch.com
2006-12-05 18:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she isn't yours.
2006-12-05 18:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by trust2400 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋