what is marital bliss?

Question

what can be described as marital happiness? what makes two people so happy in marriage and makes thsi world a beautiful place.

am amrried but in a very boring realtionship. nothing is exciting, we dont go out, we dont laught together, we just share a bed which the sex is as predicatbel as it is boring and am relaly unhappy at the verge of quiting.

can someone married tell me how happy they r and what brings along that kind of happiness?

Answer 1

I am the happiest married lady ever. My husband is not even home now and has been gone for over two months he is in the military. Being intimate in the bedroom is a very small part of it (especially when your apart for several months at a time). In fact my husband and I have the same sentiments about physical intimacy. Having it or not having it does not define who we are. It is just part of life that comes and goes. The happiest part is sitting up late talking about our feelings, plans, thoughts. It is most important to share ourselves completely in order to understand and love each other. There are times that we have nothing to talk about and we just sit together and that is okay too. Happy times are having a bad day together but still knowing that this is a part of daily life for things to not be perfect. Happiness is refusing to give up when things seem boring or don't go as planned.

Someone once told me that true love is 'smiling with a tear'. I believe this. Part of love is sacrificing. I supported him in his choice to be in the military knowing that I would lose time with him. When he went away two months ago he left me and our then seven month old daughter. I am also pregnant and very much alone and tired due to my condition as well as it is hard work caring for an infant around the clock alone. But I do it because I love him more than any other man in the world. And his feelings are mutual. He has left his home country, mother and siblings to live here with me, and also walked away from his dream job because he knew that I couldn't continue to live overseas in his country. So I suppose you could say that both of us have done our share of sacrificing and it has all been worth it.

Even we didn't expect to be where we are now. But the truth is that both of us were born for each other. We share the same beliefs, ambition, and always communicate. Above all things communication is what has made our life colorful and happy.

But I want to advise you that in marriage it is essential to share some kind of enjoyment. It is good to be in a routine but you should make an effort to surprise her in some positive way. Take her out somewhere nice and compliment her. Plan a vacation or start taking her on a date once a week to the movies, dinner, or for some kind of outing. You have to work at it. And you shouldn't give up or have negative thoughts because this is what creates barriers in a marriage. Tell her about your feelings.

Answer 2

For me and my wife, it was have a common hobby or two. We would do role-playing games alot, then if that got boring, we tried other games like playing Halo etc, then we could always find something to watch or somewhere to go, but you're right, it all does get boring after a while, which is why many many people stay single so they can use each other up and then move on to someone new and experience it all over again. The minute my wife left for the Army, the gap widened into the grand canyon and now not even Evil Canival can jump it, so you're guess is as good as mine. Sorry.

Answer 3

Well,we have been married for 12 years now.we have been trough a lot.But because of our love and children we survived.WE lough together,and have fun,and compromise each other ,we respect our differences and try to be polite.When he comes home from work ,and is not talking too much,i know he had a difficult day ,and don't expect much from him.When he sees i am tired,he tries to keep my children busy,so i can relax.We share stories,and daily news.On the weekends,it's all about our kids,who controll the show.Just talk to him and see how he feels about your marriage?If he wants to work on it and so do you,then go ahead and work on it.If not i am sorry.

Answer 4

okay i am with you up to the part you said sex is boring because i might not have the going out and not doing much but my sex life is grate and yes i asked him if he still thinks it is grate ......but anyways if you are not liking sex then you need to find what makes you happy in bed with him and if it is always the same then you have to change it that's what has worked for me and we are now doing better in and out of the bedroom.....i am sorry for what i said up top but we all read before answering so .........