Is there any home cures for this?

Question

(Excuse me for any spelling mistakes)
Well...
I need a way to become less afraid, and be more happy, and not have the constant fear of my mom.
I use the word "mom" instead of "grandma" due to mom is faster to write, but my real mother and father deserted me, and so did my grandfather. Well, I was in school awhile ago, then I got homeschooled (cyberschooled) and that took away my school friends. Then, a while later, my 4 friends at my apartment complex, 2 of them got BB guns and they played with them once. All 4 got botted out of the apartment complex (they were all my cloest friends, too)
We moved to a different state, with my aunt.
Since then, my grandma has become more tempermental and angry. I have become afreaid of her and never go a night without thinking if she was going to kill me tonight. She now dosen't allow me to go outside because I'm going to get kidnapped or raped or something.
When I was rideing my bike, it was an open area with a long strip of houses, no cars

in sigh.
So I decided to let my energy out, and sped up a tad bit, makeing out distance around 50 feet away, and I slowed down, and she jolted by me, and I was grounded and she cept on screaming at me.
I got a C in something in my school, and she threw a big fuss over it, I was grounded, and she yelled at me and said so many hatred things to me.
She has made me Antisocial, not having any friends, or even going outside.
My mom blames me for being anti social and havving no friends, she says that it's from me never wanting to go outside. I am afraid to tell her "I want to go outside! Let me outside, I'm so lonley!" the last time I gave her a command she got scary, I hid in my room the whole day.
She just got some surgery on her face, so she's out cold in her bed, that's why I'm writeing this.
I have overheard some of her conversations of how she used to take out knives in the middle of the njight thinking "My kids would be so much better if I did this" but for some reason she never

did it.
I'm about to be 11...
Is it realy my fault like she says that I am antisocial, not havving any friends, or going outside because I'm not allowed to?
We moved in with my aunt, and she gives me some confort, but she has a tight scedule and I don't have the chance to talk to her that often.
My Aunt got a puppy and wants me to train it, I was glad due to the fact I didn't have to ask to go in the backyard to let the dog out.

My grandma is 67, according to my Aunt.

Answer 1

There aren't really any home cures.

My biggest concern is the remark you made about the knives. If that's true your grandmother probably has at least some emotional problems. At the same time, I can understand why she would worry about you if you're out and around by yourself.

One thing that makes your situation difficult is if you're not in school. Kids who go to school get to have a little social life there (not to mention get an education). They also get to talk about problems/worries they have with a school counselor. If kids can be out playing some sport (even if its organized) or taking dancing lessons or doing some other activity they get to meet more kids too.

Is there any way you can talk to your grandmother, tell her you'd like to go to counseling "to be able to talk about what you can do with your life" or else "because you're feeling really lonely". Would she let you go to a counselor, so you could start by talking to them about what's going on?

In fairness to her, she may be exhausted and frustrated with whatever is going on in her life and with having to worry about keeping you safe.

What about your aunt? Is she someone sensible and reliable? Could you talk to her?

Believe me, when I make this guess its important you realize I pretty much don't know what I'm talking about. Still, I'm going to guess that maybe you're feeling tense and anxious with whatever is going on; and having "stress chemicals" going on as a result of being tense could be making you worry about your grandmother killing you more than you really would have to.

Could you talk to some adult (even your grandmother) and ask if you could go to school if you promise to stay out away from any kids who do anything they shouldn't? Could you ask if you could just go to school and maybe join some things for after school? Tell her you're lonely, and you promise you will not do anything you aren't supposed to do; but you just want to go to school and join some activities.

Could you say something about how you know its a lot for your grandmother to have her worries, and how you'd like the chance to have her worry less about you because you'd be in school, you'd come home and do your homework, and you'd just be involved with group activities at school? Maybe you wouldn't be out riding wherever you want on your bike, but you'd meet friends, have things to do, and get good grades if you did your homework.

I don't know your grandmother, but think about this: If she doesn't let you go out because she worries you'll be kidnapped or raped or something - don't you think it must be because she loves you and would die if anything awful happened to you? Do you even know that the thing about what she said about the knives is true?

If you can't do anything else, and if you're really that afraid; maybe if you could call your state's children's services (DCFS or DSS or DCS, depending on the state) and ask the people you talk to what ou can do they may be able to help. You should not be in fear, and maybe your fear isn't even fear you should have; because maybe your grandmother would never, ever, do anything. Still, if you're afraid you need to ask some sensible adult to help you.

What if you say to your grandmother, "I keep wishing I could talk to a counselor about my mother and father not being around ever. Do you think I could see one?"

Answer 2

This is a hard one...and this is a process

This happened (your fear...etc.) because of the experiences you encountered all through you life

but if you help yourself you could...learn the process

Accept: Accept what is in front of you...don't make assesments and assumptions until it is not happening

Assess: What should you do in this situation? How should you spend your energy?

Overcome: There are many ways to overcome your fears....either by facong it all by yourself or someone helping you along the way

Peer: Even if you don't have much friends, open up to your real friends and If they're going to be with you, it is surely a way for you to be more upbeat, open and undomesticated

Hope I Helped

Answer 3

I think that if she is talking about knives that you have every reason to be afraid. I understand that you are pretty isolated right now but is there anyone you can talk to about your fears, like your aunt, a minister, anyone? I would seriously suggest some outside intervention so that you can find out what is making her so angry and paranoid and help you both get a healthy relationship. Best of luck sweetie!!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Call social services. They're is the blue pages of the phone book under State Government. It sounds like your grandmother is the one in need of counselling. You don't say how old she is, but paranoia is a sign of several different types of dementia including Alzheimer's.

Answer 6

I could better answer this question if I knew your age..