i am felling all alone today...broken...?

Question

i am 15. i had been very good in my studies,..almost top,...but now..i just do not know what has happened to me...i dont seem to be able to concentrate on my studies...naturally,, my grades fell
i know this is a very common complaint from teens,...but i am feeling very broken today..very broken..
i have always been in the habbit of getting too much praise ,..i mean...my frns used to say "oh u always study and never let it out,...u will surely top again!" i mean i was never a boaster...but still i liked such praises but recently...my grades have fell byond expectation..
.i had my 1st terms which i spoilt and then my 2nd terms which again i spoilt,..my parents even started teaching me themselves but i'm not comfortable with anyone teaching me..i like to do it myself...but now i have lost that power..sitting alone,i think of nothing but pure crap
i hurt their feelings by saying that they dint know how to 'teach'...its all my fault...today i did badly in a subject i loved and now the .

i'm continuing...
so even they had to leave me...but i just ogt worse..now its my bigger exams...my career is gonna be decided n its just too late to improve i feel,...just a bit too late..my mom today gave me a very bad scolding...she as if has just become hopeless for me...

am feeling very lonely...i want to repent n bring back my time...i want to get thorough again but i am already behind ...far behind my compititiors...
i feel as if i have brought nemesis unto my own head

i could have topped all the time...had i just kept pace with the others...i would have done my parents proud...but its al a past now...i am feeling very very depressed...i just wanna go

question is....can u all give me some inspiration..u r my last choice...plz help...

hey!muggle...., i am NOT calling my parents crap! they are the best and very very nice...i love them like anything n can give my life for them...

Answer 1

Hi there...

Im 15 too. And very recently..I went through this same situation. I used to be a brilliant student but somehow my results started declining. Very much that my parents and I were extremely shocked with it. I couldnt even show my face to my competitors bcuz I knew they would smirk at my face. After that, I just declined more bcuz I was just demotivated. I literally felt I was becoming stupid and losing knowledge like as if it was evaporating out of my brain. Trust me, I totally understand what you r going through.
Let me talk of the brighter present. Now, I am back! I have regained my position in my class. Made my parents confident about their daughter once again. Showed my friends that I was not less than them but far more than them! How did I do it? Here is how it goes...I brainstormed seriously. I figured out what exactly I wanted in life. I wanted to make my parents proud of me and be extremely successful in life. Thats all. And to achieve these goals, I had to get brilliant grades. And to get brilliant grades, I had to work hard no matter what. Even if I didnt feel like studying, I promised I would push myself and study hard. I promised myself that I would do extra reading..read more than what was being taught. I promised myself that I would cut down on my leisure time and add it to my studying time even if that meant waking up at 4 and studying. I In other words, I just put in lots of hard work with strong determination. I felt I was fighting a battle. A battle a king fights in order to regain his lost kingdom. I was the king. So i fought n fought until the days of the exam approached slowly like my enemies. I knew I had to do them extremely well. I went through every question, checked my answers, thought more critically in order to end up with relevant answers.
And trust me, after my exams, I felt I had done them well. On friday, I have my report day coming up. And naturally, Im scared. But not as scared I was last time when I was expecting extremely bad results because I know I will be able to show my report to my parents with a smile on my face. I just hope everything goes as I want it to on Friday...
Remember these things always:
- No gain without pain
- Try and fail but never fail to try
- Practice makes a plan perfect
- Hard work is the key to success

So my dear, just pull urself together. Realize your aims and just focus on turning those aims to triumphs. Im sure u will make ur parents happy with u and make urself satisfied with u.

Good luck and all the best!!

Answer 2

Hi clever cat sis!
I am really very touched looking your love for your parents. Truely it's very rare to find now a days. The kind of problem you are going is very common, which almost all teenagers face but more important is that you are trying hard to improve yourself which others don't. Also the best thing i found about you is you don't feel your parents responsible for all this. For me this shows how matured you are. It is easy to blame others but it is very hard to take responsibility and fight for it. You have taken the first brave step of accepting the responsibility.
Dear CCS, God have given us beautiful mind which we are supossed to keep in control and that is purely an art, The art of meditation. You might find it religious but believe me this is scientific and the only way out. Meditation for me is concentrating on the god, thing, work, game or art you like the most. Through this your mind will become strong and cheerful. Than look how the magic works.
Also try to specify your real interest and goals. If you find that your interest and goal are totally different than please seat with your parents and give them clear idea about your feeling. But if both are same than specify higher goals not just coming top at your school but in whole town and in board also. But sis remember competetin is better only if it developes us. I mean is even if you come first respect others, love others and don't let feel others inferior. I m just guessing the possible reason why your friends are not by your side today. And never let the fever of success go your head. Even the most successful (amitabh bachan) have to try hard, really hard to maintain the position.
Success is like river you can't hold it,
You should move along it.
( It is really tough but not impossible)

You also said that you think crap. Please email me what you think crap at the age of 15. See i too have a sis of your age and i can know what is crap!!. I am not saying that it is totally your fault because now a days cinema and media have become so western, so ugly. But you got to be tough if at all want success in your life. There is whole life left to think and do crap!!! Only aimless, hopeless, uncultured teen waste there precious time in doing so. But as you are indian i have cinfidence that you will control your mind, after all it is in our blood.
Some practical tips tommorow
Bye sis, Enjoy!!!

Answer 3

It could be hormones however you calling your parents crap after all they did to raise and sacrifice so you could have the education and the bed and stuff you have is a bit uncalled for on your part and probably completely out of line. Regroup and think what in your life has cause you to plunge into this. Is it your parents involvement is it something else that happened when you started to see your grades fall, a break up? A family stress event such as a birth death or move? Everyone has bad points in our life but we must still function in the real world. If your little outburst of crap was ot your boss you could have lost your job. The are preparing you for the real world which is not as nice as school. I don't think young people today understand how it is out there.

Answer 4

There is nothing worse than feeling depressed, believe me I've been there, and I feel for you. Don't despair! You're only 15 and you have a lot of life left to live. The teen years are a difficult time, but they will pass. I've been so depressed in the past, thoughts of killing myself, etc., and I am so glad I didn't do that because now my life is back on track and I'm much happier. And you will be, too.

It sounds like you may be clinically depressed. If this is the case, please get medical help because this is a problem that can be treated. You don't have to keep suffering like that. There is no shame in asking for help.

Here is some info on depression that may be able to help you figure this out:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clinical_depression

I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Hi

Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.

Now cheer up and take all these hurdles as a challenge and try overcoming them. Set some small goal for yourself today which will help you get back on track.

Everything is what we think and so start thinking that you will soon be the way you used to be making your friends and parents proud.

Best Wishes !

Answer 6

Poverty in childhood and Solitude in old age, both are painful. Not to keep yourself in isolation, try to associate yourself with some social service organisation. Never feel you are alone, get good counselling to know the purpose of this life. Nothing is so serious in life. Everything in life is to gain and nothing to loose, either success or wisdom. Try to do some new thing that makes you passionate. God Bless you.

Answer 7

hey, it happens to everyone...life is just like the waves on the beach, keep going up and down..maybe its going down now...so don't think its only you who is suffering (there are many ppl like you)..many times we start crying and quit not even knowing how close we were to success...i tell you that coz it happened to me too...but i didn't give up...so keep trying , don't be let down by poor performance or adverse events.
also respect your parents and talk with them very freely...i shall tell you that there will be a time in life when everyone will let you down, but they will be there...so don't talk rudely to them or to anyone...
much of what i say may or may not make sense now but i gotta tell you that whatever is happening is for you good..sometime later when you are out of this ****, you will remember these words..so don't give up..
remember- its only these tough times that will bring out the best in you...
on the positive side, if tomorrow you come across a similar situation, you know what to do...so don't worry, just keep seeing the positives and be cheerful..don't waste your young age worrying about all this....its a part and parcel of life...whatever starts will surely have and end...so i hope that all this will end for you....don't run your mind in all this , try diverting your mind( play some games or listen to music)

my prayers and best wishes are with you...

take care friend...

Answer 8

hi,

it seems you are not thinking positively enough to change the negative thoughts and also the lack of interest. pls. trust me that thinking negatively can not and will not solve your problem. on the contrary, it will overburden you and ultimately, the only feeling that you would be left with would be of loneliness and sorrow and you would feel like dejected.
my dear, thish is life where you can not sit still and idle and wait for someone else to help you get of the situtaion. you are on your own and none other than yourself can help you. the only thing you have to do is change the way you think and generate a self-interest i your own life and also the knowledge adn expertise you would gian by studies.
if you try to see through the fog of negative thiughts, you would see that the way ahead is very clear and smooth, the only thing
that you need to do is bounce back from the lowest level of energy to the highest peak of self-beleif and positive attitude in all the things in your life.
friend, trust me, thinking positively will bring miracles in your life and you would be the only one who needs to stick to the situations in life with a dogged ' never-say-die' attitude.
friend, the only way to make a comeback from this dungeon to the heaven is to think, feel and act positive.
regards,
positive thought
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Answer 9

The nice thing about being 15 is you have a lot of living to do. The fact that you're concerned about this tiny slice in your life with regard to achivement means you actually care about self growth. This is a good thing.

Answer 10

I thnk you must concerntrate on your studies and work more hard to get the good result...

and I know you can do further better in all aspects...

Try to forget the past becoz you cant change your past.
From now onwards you shud be looking for your future, becoz now you are wasting your time in thinking of what you had done in your past......

God bless you Dear....
AShi