No one truly "falls" in love without a whole lot of thoughts and little things here and there, etc. And people don't BLINK and suddenly find themselves naked and sweating, so why on earth do people say "it just happened"?????
2006-12-05 17:25:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well of course in reality it doesn't just happen. But it takes lots of little steps here and there over a course of perhaps months or minutes. Little things that might be put off as harmless lead to things that aren't.
2006-12-05 17:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by kittyandcj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's about a decision that was made by two people, who made it happen. it did not just happen like that, alot of thought and planning went into it, it may have begun innocent enough but takes awhile to fall in love. people say it just happened because they don't want to admit or let people know that they had been seeing that person for quite some time, they aren't proud of themselves and just don't want to take any heat about it, so they deny it, as if they had to own up to it truthfully, they would have to also feel the guilt involved, and that would ruion their happiness. just a lack of intregety, and being selfish, wanting to avoid responsibility, and dealing with everyday problems. they are only concerned with their own happiness not the other person's misery. they want to get as far away from the person they hurt as they can. they will only feel the pain the other is feeling, when it is them that gets betrayed and hurt.
2006-12-06 09:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything that happens, happens due to a chain of events.
I suspect that people are driven to extramarital relationships, by neglectful partners. Why would anyone suffer the problems that having an affair brings, if they were getting their needs fulfilled at home? Give me a break, and use your head honestly, and you'd see the costs of an affair would always outweigh any benefit, if things were fantastic at home.
People are forced by incredible pressures to stray, but the person that drive them into another person's bed never sees how it was their doing that drove them there.
People only act for reasons... "it just happened" is what you want to hear... you don't really want to know the real reasons, because the real reasons would indict you.
Sorry, but this is a tough truth to swallow.
2006-12-06 01:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They mean that it was spontaneous, but it's the reply people give when they are unwilling to take responsibility for their own actions. People are always aware of their actions and make the decision to do what they do regardless of how fleeting that decision-making process was.
They're responsible for it and they know it. Anyone who has been betrayed needs to know that they are not responsible and deserve better.
If a person does it once, they will do it again because it's in their ethics that they see it as okay at least to some degree. If they completely were against it, it would not even enter their heads to consider it.
2006-12-05 17:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Nel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do think those words are said because their intention was to truly not take things any further than the "innocent" flirting or the casual glances etc. Its easier to not fully take the blame of why you did what you did but to just say that you yourself do not know the answer. Sometimes its the easier and safer way out for the guilty. It takes a true, mature, and honestly regretful person to admit to you the truth of "why" they did what they did. Good luck, I hope you find the answer you are looking for. Sometimes we already know the answer ourselves but just do not want to see it. Take care, be safe.
2006-12-05 17:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents just fell in love...it took them less than 3 months to fall in love and get married. They stayed happily married until my dad died in 2004. I agree that people don't just have sex. If you are under the influence of something, it sure seems as though it "just happens". Most of the time it is an excuse, and not a good one. People most often say this to try to demean the impact of thier actions.
2006-12-05 17:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by lynette g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may think they went without the "intention" of something happening, but I agree with you. it is a decision whole heartely made. People will make all sorts of excuses to make the thing they did wrong seem not so bad.
2006-12-05 17:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by jh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find hard to get anything from your real partner ( which you need by heart) & you fail to get it.
The same thing is easily avl somewhere with sacrifying some egos & principles.That time the person cheats his partner.
I am sure, even when he cheats you ,only you are in his dream & soul, not the another one with whom he is involved.
rest assure I am practical example.it really just happens,nothing serious.
2006-12-05 17:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by sk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question clearly suggests that cheating itself means not owning one's action or mistakes. that's all, such people cannot be good partners, when they don't want to acknowledge their actions wholeheartedly. every action has reaction. when done in harmony, certainly yield will be excellent. nothing happens just like that but after much effort, whether good or bad, one should always respect their conscience and soul and obey its orders with absolute genuiness and pure heart.
2006-12-05 17:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because...it just happened.
no, really, cause it's hard to explain, and that's the easy way out. and it's how to explain the point just before you kiss someone to the point just after you kiss em. it just happened.
but of course, if they're cheating, then there was probably a whole thought process involved that included DECIDING to cheat. so yeah, it just happened.
2006-12-05 17:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by -- 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋