What is Self Confidence? how to develop it?

Question

Please let me know how to behave in a social gathering? pls. provide me your honest and sincere advise.

Answer 1

Its an attitude which allows individuals to have positive yet realistic views of themselves and their situations.

Answer 2

Self confidence doesn't come until you know yourself and embrace your personality. If you are a shy person, it helps knowing that being shy doesn't mean you are boring and anyone who gets into a conversation with you will enjoy it. So in social gatherings, just be yourself. Approach people but do not fear rejection at all. It's ok if some people reject you without even knowing you or hearing you out, it only shows what low-lives they are. They only think they have self confidence because they may be looking good, but anyone with confidence will never undermine other people.
So get to know yourself and understand that each person in that gathering have their own lows, just like you. Learn more from:
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If you can understand that you have every right to be here on planet earth, you'll never lack self confidence. You are a unique individual and that's ok because it's what makes you -- you.

Answer 3

Trust of yourself.
Self confidence is aquired by overcoming obstacles, making good moral decisions and following through with the actions required to accomplish the moral. It also comes from facing fears, doing the right thing even if you know it will hurt, and being totally honest when you don't want to be. Most of all it comes from doing these things repeatedly.
Look up these words in the dictionary and follow their meanings;
Silence
Listen
Evaluate (people)
Honesty
Tact
Respect
Care
Concern
Communication
Enjoyment
If you can grasp these meanings and apply them, in order, they will help in the process of learning to be, aware of others, talkative, polite, happy, and comfortable at social functions. Keep in mind, nobody is cool, calm, and collected in every situation. Just be like you are with your friends and add the above values. It may take some time before your totally comfortable. Do your best to be yourself. Your beliefs, life stories, interests, and hobbies and the traits learned from the definitions above will give a good set of qualities for you to be likeable, talk and have a good time.

Answer 4

I have just answered this question in another post, I will copy paste ir here and hope it serves you well. The source is attached:

Insecurity is the big umbrellla, but in more detailed means this is what happens.

You have been conditioned all your life not to fully express yourself as you are, but rather supress your ideas or emotions if they are not compatible with the society or friends around which you are living.

Due to that conditioning, you have created a big illusionary image in yourself that helps you to uncover who you really are by filtering out words or ideas that you think your friends (or whoever) will not appreciate.

Now this is what happens when you come to speaking in public. Your subconcious is being aware that it would be very hard now to keep your "fake" image alive infront of a great audience, since those people sitting out there are imagined as criticizing brains, who will look for a one word mistake in your proposal.

The struggle in your subconcious that arises trying to withhold the fake image, makes all your audiences become literally "your enemies", and the evolutionary fight or flight response is generated in your body. You sweat, your adrenaline rises, your blood pressure is increased somehow, and you feel anxious/afraid of any outcome.

Now as you understand the process, here's what you can do about it:

On the short term, during public presentations:
- Do as much of them as you can despite your fear of it.
- Challenge yourself on stage, by prolonging the duration or whatever means you find.

On the long term, in your life:
- Say what you believe in with your friends, and don't be afraid of expressing your own unique opinion.
- Make it clear for others and yourself, that you are independant in your views and that you are a unique identity. You are yourself, not the group, and you don't give a damn about what others will say on you.

Answer 5

Confidence mostly comes from knowing who you are as a person and being confident in your striengths and knowing your weakness and using your striengths to overcome them. At a party observe and join in on what others are doing. Contribute to conversations. I find the best information gathering and hub information to contact is in the Kitchen helping out sometimes there is a group of core people there. Enjoy yourself.

Answer 6

For starters, I think it's vastly important that you discard certain things that are so-called "informing" you on who you should be, how you should act in society, and what materials you must have to be a happy individual.

How to accomplish this? Immediately throw away your television, cancel all subscriptions to fluff magazines, and rid yourself of materialistic fake friends. Once you've done that, with all the static noise out of your mind, you'll truly be able to concentrate on yourself with an objective lens.

Also, I would highly suggest going to your library or book store and reading biographies about the minds of great leaders - Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Benjamin Franklin, Beethoven, etc; so you can you see how they were able to accomplish all that they did. Their secret? Pretty much disregard everything society and people were telling them...

Good luck.

Answer 7

self confidence is a beautiful thing
some have non, and others are overly self confident
confidence is where you're happy with yourself
you're proud to express yourself and be who you are
you're not afraid to stand up for yourself

to develop it, you can try opening up, loosening up
first you can go to clubs and just dance, be who you are
or go to a social rathering and just go up to people and have a great converstation
even if you feel embarraed, you gain skills and ambition

so your going to a social gathering and you feel like you dont have confidence?
well, wear your favorite dress/suit
feeling great about yourself is one thing
think of topic and conversation starters...
practice in the mirror

and then when your at the gathering, just go for it
laugh, smile, be happy, and be outgoing

everything will turn out great! good luck!

Answer 8

well self confidence id 1- u ve 2 use ur mind in all the things that u c 2- not 2 behaive with rush actions 3- 2 understand wat the others r doing & y they r acting like that . 3-to analyse all ur deeds b4 doing them.
then we come to ur behaive if u did as i told u honesty u ll b likeable by the others but there is a very important piont which is 2 respect urself & respct the others specially the women ,they like the gentelman,cute,honest,guy,who doesnt hurt the others z feelings.
so i think a person like u 4m ur question i c that u can b like that.

Answer 9

Self confidence is when you are not depence of people's opinion about you.You know who are you and you don't need somebodies appreciation whole the time.So my suggestion read often Bible and pray to Lord and He will open especially what is His plane for your life and Who are YOU REALLY.You are unique and do not need to be as someone else,and you have talents which other people don't have as same as for other people have some talents which you do not have.So respect yourself.love yourself and then you can love others.

Answer 10

Self confidence is a different type of believe in self.We should keep it up.We should behave in society very politely We should be honest with ourselves.

Answer 11

I look at confidence as simply being the absence of insecurity. Notice when you're doing negative self-talk, or experiencing fear, and direct your mind elsewhere. Realize that your negative beliefs about yourself aren't reflections of reality, they're just thoughts.