How to make my 4 year old boy behave well with elders and with us. How to control his stubbornness? How to make a good relationship between the two babies? Is it because of the jealousy?
2006-12-05 17:17:48 · 9 answers · asked by FJ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
he needs to be included, ask him to do things like help change and feed the baby... little things like handing u the powder and wipes and always tell him that he is doing a great job takeing care of his sibling.
2006-12-05 17:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is jealously. He was the center of attention until now and I'm sure everyone is oohing over the new baby and he feels unimportant and left out.
When you say something about the baby try to say something like ..... you use to do the same thing when you were this age. If the baby is bottle feed let him help hold the bottle. Who gives the baby it's bath? Use this time for the other parent to have one on one time with the 4 yr.old and let him know that this is his special time.Let him know how important his role as the older sibling is, how he will teach the baby things when it gets older, have play time when everyone gets down on the floor and plays together. When my little ones were in that stage my husband and I would sit with the baby between our legs and the other would sit with the older child between their legs and roll a ball back and forth or a little car, truck, etc. anything simple, but that involved the older and younger child playing together. Swap out with the kids each night so that one parent isn't always holding the baby, the 4 yr. will notice this. It takes time but it will get better, main thing is to be patient and help him to understand the situation.
2006-12-05 17:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say jealousy is the best answer. Try making special time for him when the new baby is taking a nap or if daddy can handle the new one, spend a special mommy/son day doing his favorite thing. He is probably feeling left out. Include him when feeding the baby or changing the baby, you will find that even though he is only 4 he can be a big help as a "big brother" and won't feel so intimidated by the new one in the house. Good luck and it will get better I promise!!!
2006-12-05 17:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be suffering from the birth, which can cause a woman to go into a deep depression and do awful things in desperation. Take her to the doctor for a thorough check up. Her hormones may be messed up and the doctor will know how to get them going again. She may just be with young children too much and it's affecting her negatively. Maybe you could arrange for one afternoon or evening a week for her to go out and have some freedom. It could mean lunch or dinner with a friend, shopping, or a movie.....No one can be around children all the time and keep emotionally strong. Perhaps you could get babysitters and have a regular date night to help restore the intimacy you once shared. It would be worth the cost to save this marriage - and family for the children.
2016-05-22 23:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to let my daughter make me a PB&J sandwich every day. Sure she made a mess but she felt so proud of herself. We would sit and eat together while the baby was asleep and I let her know that it was the best sandwich I had ever tasted.
If you want him to be a big kid just show him what that means.
2006-12-05 17:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not because of the baby. Most 4 year olds are just crazy. Ask me, I have one!
2006-12-05 17:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by puppyfred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very normal if he is the oldest child. he wants all the attention on him and still be the baby, my sister was very assertive when i was born, but when my brother was born, i was happy to get attention off of me, i hated all of it, he will eventually grow out of it, just pay attention to him
2006-12-05 17:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mooshak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a temporary phase it will pass don't worry
2006-12-05 17:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by akband 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attention is all he wants
2006-12-05 17:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋