would you relocate to another city, state, country to be with someone you met online who lives in another part of the world. How far would you go for love?
2006-12-05 17:15:35 · 15 answers · asked by What'd You Say? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
A friend once told me who relocated to marry his wife from America to Japan, finding someone who loves you is the hardest part of a relationship. Anything after that must be easier by default. I kept this in mind when I moved from America to England to live with my then boyfriend-now civil partner.
Now for the less romantic side of the issue. It's very important you meet your internet interest first before shacking up. With me, my hubby first came to America for Christmas for two weeks. Then in March, I went to London for Spring Break. After four weeks we had a pretty good idea that there was more than just a fling between us and we wanted to try to make it work.
So while I moved to London, I made sure to put up plenty of safeguards just in case it didn't work out at various stages. Firstly, I bought a return ticket with a flexible return date. So if it flopped early, I could always go home right away. Then I attended a college that had on-campus living. So if I went past my return ticket date, I still had a place to live if I had to move out.
Relocating is a calculated risk, but one that I think you should take if the opportunity presents itself. The rewards are many! Even if the relationship doesn't work out, you got to travel and see a different part of the world, right? And think about how much you will have learned from the experience. Relationships across cultures are challenging but you can learn so much from each other because of it. And Finally, if you wind up with a loving partner like I did, I'm sure you will never want to look back.
2006-12-05 20:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by John Smith 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Difficult question. The feeling of love sometimes blinds the mind and of course judgment. It's hard when you feel this might be the one and what if you don't take the change and you miss out on a wonderful relationship.
I have been in a few long term relationships where it just didn't work out. Not because we fought to much, but just because we were to different and wanted different things out of a relationship.
I would relocate, but I would try and think with my heart and mind. weigh up the positives and negative and decide what would happen if things did not work out. Some kind of an escape route if you want to call it that. Even if it is to move back and start all over again. I would decide how important this risk is that I am about to take. Would talk about the whole situation as honest as possible to the other person and would also need to know what she thinks and feels.
To relocate to another country.......don't think I would do that. Only because I lived in another country for a few years. I missed my own culture and language to much.
2006-12-05 18:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Levi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As someone who's been in a two year plus internet relationship with a boy I know for a fact I am going to marry, I would say that yes, I will relocate..there is no limit on how far I will go for love.
2006-12-05 17:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tray 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never! I could never trust the internet enough to build that kind of a relationship with an individual. To go along with that when I was 13 I watched the movie "Strange Land" and it is about internet predators and based on a true story. This movie exposes the dangers of what can happen when people abuse the internet and pretty much scared me straight! I will always be sure not to trust who may be on the other end of the computer.
2006-12-05 17:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by TeQN'ical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I made it a point to find someone online who lived in my town, so I guess not.
But I did move out of state with/for someone else once. And I don't think I'll ever do it again.
2006-12-05 17:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. It wasn't an "online relationship", but 6 months after my partner and I met he moved out to St. Cloud, Minnesota for his job and I followed him. We are back home in Michigan now but we lived out there for 4 years and it was great.
2006-12-06 01:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Yikes! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... I don't think I'd ever feel love over the Internet. I KNOW I wouldn't move just to meet someone I've never met before. That's wasted effort, money, and time, all for some "potential" connection when I can meet someone face-to-face right where I live.
2006-12-05 17:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not for online love, unless you are very sure about it, but maybe you can try one or two months and if you like it, you move, if don't.. just return to your actual life/work
Hope everything's ok!
2006-12-05 17:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by odraudeatam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have relocated when i was younger for what i thought was love and it wasn't but sh.it I didn't know what love was obviously.
2006-12-05 17:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Namaste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would relocate for love. Not online love. I'm not sure that exists.
2006-12-05 17:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋