what should i do about my awful neighbor?

Question

i live in a house with a basement apartment. this old lady and her 20 something daughter lives there. the old lady is on disability and never goes anywhere. sometimes i smell rotten garbage coming up from the vents, she blasts music and bangs around all night. not to mention all the garbage and old matresses and couches she has scattered all over the lawn. filled all our parking spaces with old broken down cars, we are forced to park down the street. i could go on but i wouldnt have enough space. when we have tried to talk to her about it she tell us shes old and there is nothing she can do about it. I am so fed up. we are planning on buying this place in 6 months. i want her out before then. any ideas?

Answer 1

Your best avenue would be to ensure that the current owner cleans up his/her own property before you take possession. It is in your best interest to have a professional draw up your contracts, the legaleze will have your head spinning. It means one thing to the common man and another in legal "terms"

This way, you have room to negotiate at the very least in terms of money/other items that need to be addressed. (House been inspected? Its SO worth the money to find out whats wrong ahead of time.

Answer 2

I understand that this is frustrating for you, but I believe her when she says it's because she is old. She probably doesn't have the strength or the resources that she once had. A little compassion and a helping hand would go a long way to helping you both and solving your mutual problem. I doubt she enjoys her condition any more than you do. Call the city to come by and do a bulk pick up for her. Offer to help, and spend a Saturday afternoon being a friendly neighbor and helping the old woman gather up all the mattresses, furniture, boxes, etc. Work with her daughter to help her move things out to the curb. If she is willing to let the cars go- if they're not fixable- then discuss that she can donate them to charity for a tax write-off. Being neighborly is much better than being angry and bitter. Remember, one day you will be old too and unable to do the things you do now.

Answer 3

Here in Calif. we have stupid "code enforcement", which is akin to "Big Brother". People have been forced to form an alliance to protect themselves from the MISERY these monsters cause for homeowners! There MUST be a happy medium! Write your neighbor a very nice letter explaining you understand she's on disability, and therefore apparently needs some HELP! Explain all the discomfort you're experiencing. Tell her you'll make an effort to help her, or get help for her, as long as she's willing to cooperate. Explain that you will be forced to contact appropriate authorities if she's unwilling to improve the situation. Always make every effort to come from PEACE-a peaceful perspective. Visualize (with feelings) the perfect outcome, with peace for everyone involved. KNOW (without a doubt) that this situation is simply a life lesson that occured for you to learn from. It would really be helpful if you'd read Norman Vincent Peales' book "The Power of Positive Thinking". This book was written quite awhile ago, but continues to help me through my life. Always make PEACE and LOVE your focus, and you'll be AMAZED at how your PERSPECTIVE and LIFE will change for the better! Effortless Prosperity has also been an EXTREME improvement for my life--FANTASTIC! Stop judging anything/everything (to the best of your ability) Always (pray for and) want for everyone else ALL the good things you want for yourself. We are all VERY connected to one another, as we are to God. Please remember this law of the universe: "What we focus on is what we create MORE of!" (VERY true!) MANY spiritual teachers talk about "EGO voice" and SPIRIT (GOD) voice. What is easy and effortless is from God. Difficulty and problems are from EGO. I learned all ths from Effortless Prosperity.(Also Dr. Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay). Blessings and peace to you!

Answer 4

Complain to the Environmental Health department and the landlord. I wonder how an old lady on disability benefit who never goes out can fill your parking spaces with cars.

Answer 5

Call the town to complain it's a health hazard at minimum. She complains she's too old but has a daughter living there who could do something. After you buy a home you can't just kick out the tenants. Look into that before buying.

Answer 6

city inspectors can force the ppl to get rid of the junk, trash, and cars.
inspectors are the ones who okay building new houses, but that's not ALL they do.
Cops can arrest noise violators.
Where's the landlord? If he really wants to sell you this property, he better shape it up NOW!!!!
There's laws about elderly abuse...filth and squollar may be abuse and the state attorney general may help you. The young person may be in violation of some laws on that issue.
Hit them from all sides ia my fav technique.
See if you can't get her taxes audited too...just for a cherry on your personal sundae.

Answer 7

Put it on your purchase and sale document that all apartments will be empty upon transfer of title. Let the current property owner get them out for you.

Answer 8

do you know of any biker friends ?maybe they could call on you and stay for awhile,making as much noise a possible,who is going to argue with them ?of course you would do the neighbourly thing and invite the old lady & daughter down to your place and let things run there own course

Answer 9

Try to make good with them, let the land lord in on the in's or move on outa there. Or believe that it's all good.????

Answer 10

Invite friends over for midnight dance lessons