I was with Bev for 17 yrs, had Justin early in relationship. Cheated with Colleen. Bev left. I dated Colleen for about 2 yrs now but Bev had Gabrielle for me six months ago and I am guilty again. Colleen loves me, Bev loves me, and I love my children and both girls. Both girls cant get along.I am really confused in what to do. Both are beautiful girls and really nice. Originally I wanted to get back with Bev, but I don't want her to get hurt anymore. I'm afraid that I will cheat again. To make matters worse I am living in a nice house while Bev, Justin and Gabrielle are living in a slum and I can't financially help to get them out of there. I feel really guilty especially coming up for christmas
2006-12-05 17:07:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First you need to make up your mind about whether you want to be with Bev or Colleen. You need to stay loyal to the one that you choose. You shouldn't be worried about cheating since you already went through that. If you haven't learned from that mistake than you don't deserve either of the women.
You need to make sure that you are a part of both your children's lives no matter which woman you choose. They deserve to have 2 parents. Spending time with your kids should be a huge priority in your life. Also, it is only fair to emotionally and finacially support the mothers of your children. You shouldbe able to help at least a little bit financially. If you can't support them financially right now, figure out how you can in the future. Make it a priority. For example, you can get your children Christmas gifts. Get them some things that they will enjoy (toys, etc.) but also get them clothes and other things that they need and that their mothers might need help getting them. Anything that can take the pressure off the mothers will probably help.
2006-12-05 17:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's right for the children, not yourself. If you don't have kids with Colleen go home to Bev if she'll have you.
2006-12-06 01:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you better do some soul searching. The cheating thing you can stop if you really want to. Think about it, the guilt is telling you something. I hope you clean up your act or I am afraid you won't be helping nobody!
2006-12-06 01:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh sounds like you need to get a life,
2006-12-06 01:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋