Well first of all today I wore blue jeans and a vneck sweater with a black undershirt covering my breasts but you could see a bit of cleavage.
Anyway I uh decided to get help with bookkeeping so I met my instructor in the office. As he was explaining something(I was standing over his desk resting my hands on his desk and slightly leaned over) as he was talking to me making eye contact with me and I with him, his eyes went to my breasts area while he was talking, for more than a few seconds and he looked back up at me. As I turned and walked away I could feel his eyes on me. When I came back in for some more help, this time I stood at the side of the desk as he explained the problems. When we were done, from the corner of my eyes, I could see him watch me. As I was moving the chair back in front of the desk and leaving he was watching me. After that he didn't do anything else except be his own friendly self.
I am usually a modest person so I don't dress in tight jeans
2006-12-05 17:05:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I don't wear revealing clothes and if I do(the sweater, if you think it is, I don't wear it without an undershirt)
2006-12-05 17:05:49 · update #1
and he is older than WWII!
2006-12-05 17:08:26 · update #2
Oh my I am over 70 years old. The teachers in my high school did the very same thing. Or stand behind us so they could peer down our blouses. Its a man thing. They just love out curves. If he doesn't touch, say anything, or leer in a lecherious manner or drool. Personally Id leave it . What do the other girls say. Usually its well known which teachers are like this. But then I might be way too old fashioned.
2006-12-05 17:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If cleavage is showing people look.
For some people (I'm one of them) cleavage should only show up in, say, formal gowns or bathing suits. Not long ago I was in my local fast food place. It was - like - 45 degrees out, so everyone had jackets or sweaters on. Some girl showed up with about 6" of cleavage and her belly showing. I couldn't stop myself from looking because it looked so out of place on the day and in a fast food place. I had no interest in it - honest. I, personally, think flat chests are better looking (but I guess that's not what "the thing" is today).
I suppose I was looking because it was kind of gross. People look at car wrecks too.
Cleavage just looks out of place in so many places. Then, too, there's the man factor when it comes to anyone's looking.
Either way, I wouldn't think anything much about it. Men look, but - you know - there are also those times when you're talking to someone and they walk away and you may watch them just because they're there; so even with that, don't read anything into it.
2006-12-05 17:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that you felt uncomfortable in this space.
Next time, make sure that you are not too close to him when you are meeting. Keep a distance that makes you feel safe and comfortable.
2006-12-05 19:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ladida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's not touching you, what's the harm in letting him look? Would it bother you if the guy was the same age as you? He sounds harmless.
2006-12-05 17:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous answer... If he doesn't touch, say anything, leer, act in a lecherous manner or drool, ignore it... he may be old, but he's not dead. Men look and that's not all bad.
You handled yourself perfectly. You noticed his behavior and gave him a nonverbal message telling him to keep his distance. As long as you have good, clear boundaries, most people (men included) will respect them. You can take men noticing you and your figure as flattering as long as you don't let them treat you disrespectfully.
2006-12-05 17:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋