2006-12-05 16:35:46 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*** worked for me!
2006-12-05 16:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by meme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a really good answer. The only alternative is putting up with it and your friends will get real tired of hearing about your abusive husband after a while. Good luck. Find a battered women's shelter in your area if you need to... no man is that good for you to save to put up with that.
2006-12-06 00:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by scar_strangled_banter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wish to honor your vows....the first thing to do would be to separate....not Divorce.....
1) Separate from him and protect yourself and your kids (if you have any)
2) Ounce yall are safe....get some counseling for yourself and them....I would bet you have a lot of pent up anger
3) DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM *UNTIL* he changes and meets some standards that you and your counseler have set up.
4) If he still resists and refuse's to change....then Divorce may be an option.....but you will know that you did all you could....
Just remember the First thing is to get somewhere safe.....you do not need to be in the same house with an abuser.....
....and call/contact the people I'll list below....They should be able to help you in your specific situation.........
....I'll say a prayer for you,too!!
2006-12-06 00:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first answer is to get out of the home, if you have not already. Second is to get to a women's shelter and speak with a professional to discuss all of your options.
The man that is abusing will not change. It is sad but more than likely he was raised in the same type of household. I hope he can seek help.
But the answer to your question, in my experience, yes divorce would be best.
2006-12-06 00:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by 1stladyb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Taking anybody out of a dangerous situation is always a positive thing. If a man is beating on anybody, he is the one who needs to change. Change takes time, if it ever happens at all. Life is too short to not move on to the next chapter. If that does not include him, so be it.
If there are children, he has a right to be with them unless or until he abuses in any way. Supervised visits after that. And of course, mandatory anger management classes from now on. Hey, Rome wasn't built in a day.
2006-12-06 00:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I understand that you love him and you are very conflicted on your feelings for him but no one deserves to be abused physically, mentally, or emotionally your only option is to leave file for divorce and cut all contact for a extended period of time. Hopefully this action will shock him into realizing that he has some serious emotional problems and he will seak therapy and change as a person. It can happen people can change but it is going to take a lot of time and work on his part.
2006-12-07 13:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by strawberrysbest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes-divorce is the answer- seek the nearest shelter & take your kids & go! Your kids do not need to see you getting abused-physically or mentally. Or if you have friends or family close by- ask them for help & shelter. Even a church will help you- go- your situation will not improve but only get worse, good luck.
2006-12-06 00:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by jyone scotani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, please if you are being abused, call the police get out leave forget your cloths they can be replaced go to you local battered womans shelter they can help you apply for a protection order and start divorce proceedings.
2006-12-06 00:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by hurricanemercedes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting away from abusive partners is always the right thing to do. Be strong, hold your head up and move on. Do not be fooled by "I'm sorry, it will not happen again" crap. Abusers never change, it only gets worst, It's divorce or death.
2006-12-06 00:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by davidswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is never good to try and change someone, and hope that they will stop it. i think divorce is the only answer. my daughter stayed years with her husband, and each and every time he would promise but the promises were always broken. she could have really gotten killed by him toward the last. they are angry at themselves, something within them, and unless tey are willing to get serious therapy, or acknowledge what they do is wrong, theres no hope for any future with them. best to run as fast as u can away, so u can find peace. you are codependant, meaning u try and try to fix whatever is wrong, u don't want to give up on him, as u love him, but marriage needs more than that, u must be able to feel safe, and secure.no one deserves to be beaten, or terriorized, when it happens we must think enough of ourselves to get out of it, and realiaze changing him may be out of our hands,
2006-12-06 19:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, a divorce combined with counselling for the battered (or children who have witnessed) and criminal charges for the batterer
2006-12-06 00:41:02 · answer #11 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋